What Do We Tell Our Children?

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

What Do We Tell Our Children? or Little Pitchers Have Big Ears

Inrepparttar last few days, be it on a TV interview, a call in program, at a meeting or a consultation, people ask variations ofrepparttar 126323 following questions. ďWhat do we tell our children aboutrepparttar 126324 bombing? Shall we keep it a secret? Shall we wait withrepparttar 126325 little ones until they ask? After all they donít knowrepparttar 126326 difference, anyway.Ē They say. ďAt what age can they comprehend what has happened? Wonít it scare them to talk to them?Ē

Adults often forget that children have ears. They makerepparttar 126327 mistake of believing that if a child isnít told about an event, he or she wonít know what you donít want him or her to know. Remember your own youth. Didnít you learn almost everything your parents didnít want you to? Children pick up secrets like sponges. And, if you donít tell them your version, they will fill inrepparttar 126328 blanks with mixed-up stories of their own.

Very young children donít knowrepparttar 126329 difference between reality and fantasy. One burning building looks like another, one they have seen inrepparttar 126330 movies or on television or even a cartoon. But, depending upon how it is presented to them, children of about three can begin to differentiate fact from fiction.

During a crisis such asrepparttar 126331 one we are undergoing, be it war or a terrorist situation,repparttar 126332 most important thing an adult can do is to tell simple truths calmly. I donít care if you have to go torepparttar 126333 bathroom and throw up because you are so upset. Remain calm and steady with your young children (and instruct their teachers to dorepparttar 126334 same). If your children feel safe with you, they will have a much better chance of managing to decipherrepparttar 126335 mťlange of facts and images bombarding them. It is a mistake to try to hide what is happening from any child that asks about an event or what they see on television or hear at school or inrepparttar 126336 street. Overrepparttar 126337 age of three, something must be said, even if they donít ask.

What You Still May Be Experiencing, After September 11, 2001

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

What You Still May Be Experiencing After September 11, 2001

Every one of us who has experiencedrepparttar events of September 11th andrepparttar 126322 aftermath, has encountered stress which is far beyond what is usual in our lives. Unusual reactions to an unusual situation are normal. Below are some ofrepparttar 126323 reactions you may have. Although we may experience them at different times Ė immediately, or days, even weeks later Ė they are generally temporary. If we recognize and accept these emotional reactions, we can shortenrepparttar 126324 time we experience them. Disbelief

-Feelings of re-experiencingrepparttar 126325 events -Recall of past trauma/loss -Heightened responses to aftershocks, loud noises, or other surprises -Feelings of sadness, anger, irritability -Difficulty sleeping or sleeping more than usual -Physical discomfort: headaches, stomachaches, sore muscles, cold symptoms -Increase or decrease of appetite -Discomfort in places you normally would feel safe in -Feelings of exhaustion -Feelings of vulnerability, loss of control, confusion -Forgetfulness, loss of concentration, difficulty making decisions, or thinking creatively -Feelings of guilt/relief, depression, tearfulness -Fear of laving your home or loved ones -Discomfort being alone and/or social withdrawal -Feeling a need to reevaluate your life Ė whatís really important to you, whatís not

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