As parent, one of your top priorities is to reduce this negative effect and help your children have positive divorce adjustment. Here are 10 things you should do to promote positive divorce child adjustment.

1. Do encourage your children to talk about how they feel.

The sure way to help your children adjust to divorce is for you to know what they feel. So let your children know that they can openly talk to you about their feelings of your separation or divorce. Keep lines of communication open and answer all questions about changes. Make sure your children feels like they can ask you questions and get answers about why divorce happened and what to expect.

2. Reassure children that everything will be ok but just different.

Children are invariably frightened and confused by divorce. Provide extra hugs and kisses and tell your child that you and other adults will always be near to love and protect.

3. Do stay involve in your children's life.

Custodial and non-custodial parent should stay involve in their children's life. Children may interpret lack of involvement as rejection. Often, they think parent who is not involved in their life loves them less. If your children are to adjust well to your divorce, nurturing parent-child relationship is paramount. Spend special time with your children, have fun together and continually express your love for your children.

4. Do keep your ex-spouse from becoming an ex-parent.

Many non-custodial parents, who typically are fathers, fail to stay involved with their children after divorce. This is unfortunate as children's adjustment is enhanced by a positive, active relationship with both parents.

If you are custodial parent, you should encourage involvement of non-custodial parent even though it takes extra effort if a lot of anger is still present. It is a time when you must separate your spousal relationship from your parenting relationship. This is hard, but it is possible. You must try not to "direct" your spouse's parenting patterns and concentrate your efforts on smoothing access.

5. Do not argue with your ex-spouse in front of your child.

Children exposed to conflict are more likely to have behavioral and emotional disturbances, suffer social and interpersonal problems, and show impairment in their thought and reasoning processes. Experts say amount of conflict child witnesses during and immediately after divorce is a crucial factor in his or her adjustment.

When parents show better emotional adjustment after divorce, so do children. Children show much less anxiety, insecurity and distress when parents are able to argue in a proper manner, reach an agreement, and stick to compromise.

It’s safe to say that of all important events in your lifetime, your wedding day is certain to be right up there with those that are most meaningful. And throughout entire wedding day – preparations, ceremony, reception, and wedding night – moment when you recite your wedding vows to each other is most meaningful. It is a time that you will remember forever, exactly as it felt: a sublime, dreamlike fantastical moment, when everyone significant to you is watching as you join in wedlock with most important individual in your life.

Conquering Your Fears

Since this is such a unique and central moment to your romantic life, you’re probably wondering how it is that you’ll make experience better than that 10th grade public-speaking assignment where you blanked out halfway through and fainted in front of all of your peers. Begin by telling yourself that it is perfectly natural to feel nervous when speaking in public. Moreover, not everyone is born with perfect public-speaking skills that accurately demonstrate what they feel in their hearts. However, fortunately for majority of us, these things can be learned.

Of course, being well-prepared and armed with wedding vows you know are absolute best they could possibly be is one of easiest ways to overcome these fears. How do I know? Because home-study course I put together, The Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit, has helped hundreds of couples take fear out of their wedding ceremony by giving them tools they need to write truly amazing wedding vows. You can find out more about kit at http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com.

But beyond that, when you think logically about each of these fears, you’ll realize there is nothing that cannot be overcome with a bit of care, technique, and practice. Let’s take a realistic look at these five incredibly common worries. In a few minutes, you’ll see that none of them are likely to spoil your ceremony.

Common Fear #1: Freezing Up