Wedding Invitations—Today’s Etiquette and Wording

Written by Jean Bachcroft

The look ofrepparttar wedding invitations you send will not only says a lot about you and your husband-to-be they will also convey a fair amount of information about your upcoming ceremony. So it is important to planrepparttar 144471 type of wedding you will have before you make any decisions about your invitations.

Based uponrepparttar 144472 quality ofrepparttar 144473 paper stock, lettering, color and design you select, recipients are likely to make a determination aboutrepparttar 144474 formality or informality ofrepparttar 144475 event, thus how they should dress. The color of your invitations may suggestrepparttar 144476 color scheme of your wedding. The quality ofrepparttar 144477 paper may indicate how elaborate or simple you wedding will be.

Choosing Invitations

Stationery Stores—Most brides still go to a stationery store to select invitations. Once there, you can look at brochures and browse through manufacturers’ catalogs. The catalogs include samples invitations so that you can feelrepparttar 144478 paper stock, seerepparttar 144479 true color ofrepparttar 144480 paper, and compare different print options. Knowledgeable clerks will be on hand to help you pick outrepparttar 144481 desired color and weight ofrepparttar 144482 paper as well asrepparttar 144483 ink, style of script, and wording for your invitations. The only thing remaining for you to do will be to providerepparttar 144484 particulars.

There are only a few large manufacturers and they dominaterepparttar 144485 wedding invitation industry. As a result, whichever stationery house you go to you are likely to seerepparttar 144486 exact same catalogs. Unlike private print shops, because these companies mass-produce their products they are able to offer you greater variety at a lower price.

Online Shopping—There is virtually nothing you can’t buy onrepparttar 144487 Internet, including your gown (although I would not recommend an online purchase for your wedding dress, which must be properly sized and fitted).

The Internet offers a huge number of sites selling both traditional and unique invitations. If you are bargain shopping for invitations,repparttar 144488 Internet is definitelyrepparttar 144489 place to go.

Keep in mind that you are always taking a chance when you choose this method. There is nothing like being able to feelrepparttar 144490 quality ofrepparttar 144491 paper orrepparttar 144492 raised lettering to ensure that you will get exactly what you want. However, knowing how different weights of papers feel and aboutrepparttar 144493 different methods of printing can help.

Private Printers—Because ofrepparttar 144494 availability of mass producers andrepparttar 144495 tendency of many people to shop for bargains onrepparttar 144496 Internet, private shops are now hard to find. If you have your heart set on truly personalized invitations, look around. You are almost sure to find one somewhere.

Different Printing Methods

There are essentially four common methods of invitation printing, each with its own benefits.

Handwritten—If you are planning a small wedding (meaning 50 people or fewer), it is perfectly acceptable to hand write your invitations. Of course, this will be hard work, but you will save a lot of money.

Engraved—This isrepparttar 144497 ultimate in invitation printing. With engraving,repparttar 144498 printer stampsrepparttar 144499 back ofrepparttar 144500 paper using metal plates. This raisesrepparttar 144501 print up off ofrepparttar 144502 paper so that you can actually feelrepparttar 144503 lettering. For most brides, engraved invitations are much to costly.

Thermography—This isrepparttar 144504 most common form of invitation printing. With this method,repparttar 144505 ink is heated to create a raised-letter effect that is nearly indistinguishable from engraving.

Calligraphy—We all recognize this as another name for fancy formal script. This method is becoming more popular every year, Many ofrepparttar 144506 printing houses are now able to offer this print option as well, but it is not done by hand.

Wedding Etiquette for the Best Man, Groomsmen, and Ushers

Written by Jean Bachcroft

Undoubtedly,repparttar groom will want to choose a few good men—often his brothers, college buddies, and best friends—to carry out all ofrepparttar 144470 responsibilities traditionally assigned torepparttar 144471 guys. Once your fiancé has picked his team, he’ll have to give them a few pointers on just what their roles and responsibilities are, so here’srepparttar 144472 lowdown.

A Friend in Deed

Let’s start withrepparttar 144473 best man (the head groomsman) since his role is so crucial. The best man is an all-purpose kind of guy—friend, organizer, coach, confidant—with a lot of responsibilities.

In general, he must make sure thatrepparttar 144474 wedding goes off without a hitch. Whenrepparttar 144475 groom feels stressed, he is ready with encouragement and a good sense of humor.

Traditionally, it isrepparttar 144476 best man who is in charge of organizingrepparttar 144477 bachelor party and making all travel arrangements forrepparttar 144478 bride and groom. He makes surerepparttar 144479 groom and other groomsmen get fitted for and pick up their formalwear. He is also expected to superviserepparttar 144480 other groomsmen and ushers, serve as an official witness torepparttar 144481 vows, safeguardsrepparttar 144482 ring and marriage license just beforerepparttar 144483 wedding, and payrepparttar 144484 clergyman’s fee (whichrepparttar 144485 groom quietly slips to him beforerepparttar 144486 ceremony).

Afterrepparttar 144487 ceremony, he makes surerepparttar 144488 wedding party lines up properly forrepparttar 144489 "wedding parade" through town, if one is planned. Atrepparttar 144490 reception, he serves asrepparttar 144491 master of ceremonies, proposesrepparttar 144492 first toast, and remains on hand to ensure that all subsequent speeches are both short and sweet. His final duty is to return allrepparttar 144493 rented tuxes.

INCIDENTAL—In case it should happen that several notable people would like to offer a toast, here isrepparttar 144494 order ofrepparttar 144495 speakers: best man, groom’s dad, bride’s dad, groom, bride, maid of honor, groom’s mom, bride’s mom, other friends and relatives.

And a Few Good Men

Of course,repparttar 144496 other groomsmen or ushers are also important members ofrepparttar 144497 wedding party. The are, in effect,repparttar 144498 couples hospitality committee. Although groomsmen often do double-duty—serving as ushers before and afterrepparttar 144499 ceremony—in may cases, at large weddings, for example, there are two sets of men: groomsmen and ushers. (The general rule is one usher for every 50 guests.) In these instances, it isrepparttar 144500 ushers who seatrepparttar 144501 guests, and it is they who makerepparttar 144502 first impression on guests as they arrive.

Ushers greetrepparttar 144503 guests and escort them onrepparttar 144504 proper side ofrepparttar 144505 church. As tradition would have it, when a female guest arrives (whether she is alone or not), one ofrepparttar 144506 ushers should step forward, extend his right arm, and escort her to her seat, followed by her spouse or date. (I am in favor ofrepparttar 144507 more modern sentiment which suggests that this approach is incompatible withrepparttar 144508 whole concept of marriage and thatrepparttar 144509 husband should not be relegated to trailing behind this temporary pair.)

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