Wedding Etiquette for the Best Man, Groomsmen, and Ushers

Written by Jean Bachcroft

Undoubtedly,repparttar groom will want to choose a few good men—often his brothers, college buddies, and best friends—to carry out all ofrepparttar 144470 responsibilities traditionally assigned torepparttar 144471 guys. Once your fiancé has picked his team, he’ll have to give them a few pointers on just what their roles and responsibilities are, so here’srepparttar 144472 lowdown.

A Friend in Deed

Let’s start withrepparttar 144473 best man (the head groomsman) since his role is so crucial. The best man is an all-purpose kind of guy—friend, organizer, coach, confidant—with a lot of responsibilities.

In general, he must make sure thatrepparttar 144474 wedding goes off without a hitch. Whenrepparttar 144475 groom feels stressed, he is ready with encouragement and a good sense of humor.

Traditionally, it isrepparttar 144476 best man who is in charge of organizingrepparttar 144477 bachelor party and making all travel arrangements forrepparttar 144478 bride and groom. He makes surerepparttar 144479 groom and other groomsmen get fitted for and pick up their formalwear. He is also expected to superviserepparttar 144480 other groomsmen and ushers, serve as an official witness torepparttar 144481 vows, safeguardsrepparttar 144482 ring and marriage license just beforerepparttar 144483 wedding, and payrepparttar 144484 clergyman’s fee (whichrepparttar 144485 groom quietly slips to him beforerepparttar 144486 ceremony).

Afterrepparttar 144487 ceremony, he makes surerepparttar 144488 wedding party lines up properly forrepparttar 144489 "wedding parade" through town, if one is planned. Atrepparttar 144490 reception, he serves asrepparttar 144491 master of ceremonies, proposesrepparttar 144492 first toast, and remains on hand to ensure that all subsequent speeches are both short and sweet. His final duty is to return allrepparttar 144493 rented tuxes.

INCIDENTAL—In case it should happen that several notable people would like to offer a toast, here isrepparttar 144494 order ofrepparttar 144495 speakers: best man, groom’s dad, bride’s dad, groom, bride, maid of honor, groom’s mom, bride’s mom, other friends and relatives.

And a Few Good Men

Of course,repparttar 144496 other groomsmen or ushers are also important members ofrepparttar 144497 wedding party. The are, in effect,repparttar 144498 couples hospitality committee. Although groomsmen often do double-duty—serving as ushers before and afterrepparttar 144499 ceremony—in may cases, at large weddings, for example, there are two sets of men: groomsmen and ushers. (The general rule is one usher for every 50 guests.) In these instances, it isrepparttar 144500 ushers who seatrepparttar 144501 guests, and it is they who makerepparttar 144502 first impression on guests as they arrive.

Ushers greetrepparttar 144503 guests and escort them onrepparttar 144504 proper side ofrepparttar 144505 church. As tradition would have it, when a female guest arrives (whether she is alone or not), one ofrepparttar 144506 ushers should step forward, extend his right arm, and escort her to her seat, followed by her spouse or date. (I am in favor ofrepparttar 144507 more modern sentiment which suggests that this approach is incompatible withrepparttar 144508 whole concept of marriage and thatrepparttar 144509 husband should not be relegated to trailing behind this temporary pair.)

Wedding Receiving Line Etiquette—Greeting Your Guests with Style

Written by Jean Bachcroft

Even though it’s a great tradition with a long history, some couples choose not to greet their guests in a receiving line fearing that this might take too long. Frank Gregoli, a top New York party planner says realistically, one should allow 30 minutes for every 100 people inrepparttar line. If this time allotment fits within your plans and you’d like to be certain that you personally welcome and thank each of your guests, read on.

Knowrepparttar 144469 Basics

Being familiar withrepparttar 144470 basics of what a receiving line is all about will immediately help you to feel comfortable with this elegant formality.

Exactly when and whererepparttar 144471 receiving line is formed is really based upon your particular situation. In general, people like to form their line either inrepparttar 144472 vestibule right afterrepparttar 144473 ceremony or atrepparttar 144474 entrance torepparttar 144475 reception area.

Withrepparttar 144476 exception ofrepparttar 144477 groom, this is really a lady’s affair. Here’srepparttar 144478 lineup: first in line isrepparttar 144479 bride’s mother, followed byrepparttar 144480 bride,repparttar 144481 groom and, next to him, his mother.

Dads, groomsmen, bridesmaids, and children inrepparttar 144482 wedding party generally are not a part ofrepparttar 144483 receiving line. If for some reason you choose to include any of these people, keep in mind that every person you add will causerepparttar 144484 line to proceed slower.

Short and Sweet

Once everyone is in position,repparttar 144485 rule should be to keep greetings brief yet warm and sincere. This will avoid a bottleneck. If there is time before your wedding day, review your list of guests withrepparttar 144486 groom and parents. A little homework never hurts.

Since your mother and you arerepparttar 144487 first in line, it’s expected that relatives and friends of his side ofrepparttar 144488 family will introduce themselves to each of you. As your relatives and friends proceed, you should introduce them torepparttar 144489 groom and his mother.

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