Dreams and goals stand less of a chance of coming to fruition if they've been crushed, or stomped on in any way. This is common knowledge.

When we have a goal, we are told to hold fast to dream, don't waver, don't dilute. Wavering does not give Universe a chance to deliver. Diluting your dream, asking for less than you originally intended, sends a conflicting message to Universe also.

We get so excited about our visions, we eagerly tell someone else, maybe a family member, friend or neighbor - even a significant other, and we forget, they aren't always on same wavelength as us. They push our 'How are you going to do that?' buttons.

Did you know successful, high achievers don't think about 'How'? They don't think about 'How am I going to achieve this?'. They simply focus on What, and allow Universe to deliver How.

If you get a reaction from someone after telling them about your dream of, "No way", or "Hmmm" or "Yeah, right, I'll believe it when I see it", or even a non-committal grunt, quickly tell yourself "cancel, cancel" and redirect your thoughts back to positive vibe of your achievement. Do not lose that dreamy, feel-good sensation. Continue to feel it with all your heart. It's that feeling, that excitement you experience when you visualize goal, that makes it all happen.

People who provide you with such responses are not able to think of you and what you need. Their reply comes directly from their own experiences and should definitely not be taken seriously. I know, you can keep wishing others would respond to your excitement with enthusiasm and support, but fact of matter is, YOU are only one who really needs to be enthusiastic about your venture because YOU are only person who will make it a reality.

Why is that we start New Year off determined that this is year to get our lives together? This year I'm going to eat better, loose weight, go to Gym, give up drinking or whatever. We start with so much enthusiasm and determination. But some how a couple of weeks in, other things are more important, we run of time or steam and we slid back into our comfortable old habits. But spend a few moments thinking how good you will feel if you actually stuck to your resolutions - if you really did loose those 7 kilos or whatever it was you wanted. There is a big part of you that really does want to be happier and healthier, this year. So what gets in your way?

Is it fear or sabotage? Is it just being more comfortable with your old ways. Ask yourself how badly do you want a 'new you'? Or is it just some pie in sky fantasy that would be nice if you didn't have to work too hard at it.

NOTHING WILL CHANGE UNLESS YOU DO

So if you really want things to change you do need to put some effort in.