WHY YOU WANT WHAT YOU CAN'T HAVE

Written by Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.


ďYou canít always get what you want . . .Ē The Rolling Stones will soon be singing this refrain at venues aroundrepparttar world, as they embark on a year-long concert tour in August.

This song, now decades old, addresses a universal truth. Hereísrepparttar 138750 rest ofrepparttar 138751 refrain:

You can't always get what you want . . . But if you try sometimes You just might find You get what you need.

What is it that you really wanted and didnít get? The affections of a person who was with someone else? That dream job? The last cinnamon-raisin bagel snapped up byrepparttar 138752 customer in front of you?

These scenarios range from trivial to potentially life-changing, but they all have one thing in common:

WHEN YOU DONíT GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU WANT IT EVEN MORE.

Here are three reasons why this is so:

1. Heightened attention: When something is hard to get (or forbidden) you immediately pay more attention to it. Notice that when you are on a restricted diet, you sometimes get too focused on what you ďcanítĒ eat. This heightened attention -- which can escalate into obsession -- makesrepparttar 138753 forbidden food seem very important. Your inner brat takes advantage of this, and tries to convince you that you MUST have that chocolate or pizza.

2. Perceived scarcity: When something is scarce or in short supply, its perceived value increases. You want it more because you think other people also want it. If youíve ever bid at auctions or on eBay, you knowrepparttar 138754 experience of that last-minute excitement as you watchrepparttar 138755 bids spiral upward. The more people who bid,repparttar 138756 more youíre willing to pay forrepparttar 138757 item. Your inner brat wants it at any price.

Spring Cleaning

Written by Gayla Swihart DeHart


Spring is such a refreshing time- we are filled withrepparttar hope and promise ofrepparttar 138504 seasons ahead. The flowers blossom, our spirits lift. This is a great time to make a fresh start, to de-clutter your life, to get back torepparttar 138505 simple pleasures.

1. Go outside and enjoyrepparttar 138506 beauty of spring. Not while you are in a rush to get your tasks done- just forrepparttar 138507 pleasure of looking atrepparttar 138508 shapes and colors, or smellingrepparttar 138509 freshness of new grass orrepparttar 138510 ocean. No agenda, not with your mind racing along filling up your to-do list. The point of this task is to empty your mind of everything butrepparttar 138511 present. Just trust that allrepparttar 138512 important things on your to-do list will still be there when you are finished, only you will have more energy and be more creative inrepparttar 138513 execution of that list.

2. Call an old friend that you have been meaning to catch up with. Schedule it into you day planner if you have to, but do it! Allow yourself lots of time so you can really get caught up.

3. Go through your closets and throw out anything that you havenít worn inrepparttar 138514 past year (unless you really love it- then only throw it out if it has been two years). Buy yourself a piece of clothing in a bright new color.

4. Do one thing that you have been meaning to do but havenít gotten around to yet- go torepparttar 138515 art gallery, see a play or go torepparttar 138516 opera. Choose a Saturday this month and plan this- invite your favourite person to join you.

5. Learn something new- take a class, read a book, try a new sport or craft. Learning new things keeps us youthful and vibrant and makes us more interesting- and interested.

6. Do something positive for your community- sign up for a charitable run (as a volunteer or participant), help with a community clean-up, attend a fund-raiser. Find a way to get involved and give back.

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