Whether you have known your prospective roommate since kindergarten, or whether you just met, it is important to set aside some time for an in-depth conversation to discuss your expectations. You should meet in person, perhaps over a cup of coffee. Campus is a great neutral ground. A telephone call just won't do for something as important as this.Don't skip any of
following points! Thoroughly explore how each of you feels about other's comments. If you are not clear about something, ask! Better now than after you sign a lease. Be tactful-say, "I have never shared a bedroom and doing so now could be a hassle," instead of, "You couldn't pay me to share a room with someone." But, above all, be honest! If either of you paints too rosy a picture, you are in for some nasty surprises later on. If you live with someone long enough, your true feelings will eventually come out.
You may want to jot down a list of points to consider, such as:
Who Are You?
Discuss your background, your family, home, previous school, activities before you came to CSUSM, your weakness for Haagen Daz Rum Raisin ice cream, everything that makes you-you.
What Are Your Needs?
Frankly discuss any and all of following sticky subjects.
Likes And Dislikes
Regarding smoking, drugs, drinking, pets, music, etc.
Overnight Guests
Boyfriend, girlfriend, family, friends. (This is a biggie! Be honest about your feelings, many a roommate relationship has run into big trouble over this one.)
