Whenever, we have a task or project to carry out don't we always look for
most capable person to lead us? And if
task were supposed to follow a set pattern, don't we like to stick to time-tested methods that worked all
time?But sometimes events happen so quickly that it takes our breath away. When things do not go as we planned, tempers flare up, moods become dampened, and we so quickly become irritated - especially if it was caused by last minute permission changes, which could so easily be overruled if only
person in authority would take a softer stand.
Yes, it happened to me recently.
My fellow facilitators and I had been conducting a 32-week "Becoming Disciples through Bible Study" program for
past year and now we had organized a year-end retreat as a climax of
study for
participants. It was so very important that we do it right. The retreat schedule was very carefully planned.
The culmination of
retreat will end with a mass, where
priest will give his blessing for those who wanted to become facilitators for
next year and so send forth to do
work.
However, this time, it was different from
previous years. In our first year, we had
retreat at Stella Maris, an old 3-storey building where tables, chairs, sound system, and many other essential items for holding
retreat were not in place. I could remember how
older participants would have to struggle up
staircase while
facilitators had to carry tables and chairs up and down
stairs. Setting up
sound system and OHP was also a struggle for
facilitators.
In
subsequent years, we had it in one of
beach hotels. It was excellent for
first time, but
cost went up
following year and it was not so affordable for many of
participants. However, everything went according to plan and
hotel staffs were able to accommodate any urgent requests that cropped up.
But
other hotel patrons and
general public were doing their own thing, organizing their own functions and making noises in and around
hotel area! This year, somebody suggested to use a new building that was build on one of
church ground. This church is very well-known, large and grand. The church ground is spacious, contains lush greenery, hill slopes, and is so beautiful. For many of us, it was an ideal place for retreats. And it was relatively cheap.
All
facilities for
retreat were there - single-storey comfortable rooms, spacious function room, sound systems, short distances from our homes, plenty of open spaces for reflection and Taize, and low cost - it seem a perfect place.
But we found out that there were some difficulties too. Some of
older participants wanted to attend mass during
retreat. This would never have happen if
retreat were held away from church grounds. Anyway, this was not a big problem.
Our greatest blow came when we were told by
parish priest that we could not have a separate mass at
end of
retreat and that mass must be held together with
parish congregation. The reason -
chapel that we had intended to hold
mass was not blessed yet.