Unemployment Blues: Emotional Damage ControlWritten by Virginia Bola, PsyD
Looking for work is a roller-coaster ride: high with elation when you think you’ve found a great position, low with discouragement when you realize that someone else was offered a job you wanted.Most of time, you fall somewhere in between, your mood cycling from cautious optimism to keen disappointment. You try to conceal inner turmoil, turning a brave face to world, trying to convince everyone that you are “just fine.” For sake of your health and your sanity, try these approaches: 1. Identify someone who is willing to be a sounding board for you: your significant other, a fellow job seeker, a career counselor, a good friend. Explain that you need someone to help you express feelings inside and gain a better understanding of what is happening to you emotionally. Then talk to them, for a few minutes. You don’t want to become a burden and your listener is not a paid therapist. Ten minutes of honest revelation and analysis a few times per week can help you avoid ulcers, family fights growing out of your frustration, self-isolation, and will free up energy it takes to hold everything in. That is energy you need to conserve for job search.
| | Disengagement and Disenchantment in the Job SearchWritten by Marilyn J. Tellez, M.A.
DISENGAGEMENT AND DISENCHANTMENT IN THE JOB SEARCH After a few rejections while looking for work, it is easy to become disenchanted, discouraged and depressed. Everyone gets these blues when looking for work. What to do about these negative emotions? I don't think it is smart nor effective to dismiss them, nor prolong them. So....It is ACTION that helps. What kind of action? ANY ACTION WILL WORK! Physical movement works well in diminishing effects of too much concentration on self.
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