Steve’s a pretty regular guy – wife, 4 kids in their blended family, 12+ years of engineering experience, a degree, mortgage, car payments, some debt… and feeling depressed because he waited to look till end. Last time he transitioned was 5 years ago for more money and he liked some of people and it was simple…this time he’s heard some in his professional association have been looking for almost a year...and they weren’t lightweights. No wonder he’s sweating.
Steve’s wife can’t figure out why he’s so moody and angry…she doesn’t understand that Steve has feelings of rejection from a company he had been loyal to for 5 years. He had poured heart and soul into his projects. Even though he didn’t always agree with his manager’s direction, on a project he shepherded, he had been recognized for achievement. Gosh, only 2 years in and already a rising “star”.
In hindsight, Steve saw he had subtly butted heads on how team was treated by management and that he made suggestions that “his bosses’ way” was backward. Things began to slip. It was more real when he didn’t get a merit raise. He didn’t fathom basic tenet that consistent values with management are fundamental to longevity. You see, Steve made an “easy” choice to compromise his work ethics and principles because he thought he was on upside of lots of growth (money).
Choice #1 – Choose based on values – not only on personalities in organization.
Now that his desk was cleared out, a few weeks to wind down was in order before he could mount energy to start looking. After all, he deserved a break, didn’t he? It gave him time to think over what went wrong…to concentrate, to brood over calamity that landed on him because others hadn’t done their jobs. It simply wasn’t fair…Jesse, their 6 year old, couldn’t understand why “daddy just sits in den and won’t play with me anymore…”
Choice #2 – You have power to choose your reaction to difficulty. It was business, not personal, and even if it was personal, so what, get some support, get some direction, get some help to tackle this bump in road and get on with life.
Steve’s wife finally pushed him to get his resume posted online…this is easy! What he didn’t know was internet is only about 4% of market and that less than 10% of companies who have posted have ever hired someone from internet. He has complacently fallen into a deadly trap believing quantity will always yield quality positions!