Top Ten Ways To Attract Loyalty

Written by Monique Rider

The Top 10 Ways to Attract Loyalty

Loyalty is valued and appreciated by most, but often hard to come by. Below are some suggestions as to how to attract loyal individuals into your life. Notice that many ofrepparttar suggestions involve your own behavior.

1. Define what it means to you. Loyalty means different things to different people. Determine what it means to you. What does it look like? How does it make you feel? Only then can you truly recognize it and welcome it into your life.

2. Modelrepparttar 102061 behavior that you expect from others. If you practice loyalty and make it a part of your value system, you will easily recognize it in others. Those arerepparttar 102062 individuals you'll be attracted to.

3. Be true to yourself. Spend time getting to know yourself, taking care of yourself, and standing up for yourself. If you are loyal to YOU - others will be, too.

4. Speak up! If loyalty is what you value, educate those around you. Let them know what is important to you.

5. Accept it! Many of us have so many past hurts that we question every gift that comes our way. We are bitter, and hesitant to accept what others have to offer. Life is too short to live in fear. Open your heart and accept loyalty when it comes your way.

Acceptance Can Attract Positives

Written by Monique Rider


“Since we cannot change reality, let us changerepparttar eyes which see reality”. Mikos Kazantzakis

Oh, how we all try to control or change what happens in our lives. Never quite accepting life for what is has to offer. Acceptance has been a hard lesson for me to learn, as I expect it has been for others as well. Can you imaginerepparttar 102060 time, effort and energy involved in constantly fighting your circumstances? Wishing things were different, thinking negative thoughts, worrying, controlling, manipulating, becoming angry and bitter. These are all negative emotions that cause anxiety, fear, fatigue, illness – and they just plain drain us! Instead of US controlling our circumstances, our circumstances end up controlling US. It’s a bit of a paradox, but if it is peace, serenity, and well being that you desire –repparttar 102061 above behaviors and emotions won’t get you there! Actually, they will only attract more negativity.

I have faced many struggles and each time I thought if I worried enough, obsessed enough, did this or that, I could get this wicked “problem” under control and shove it out of my life for good. That way my life could be perfect, with no issues. Well isn’t that a prime example of ego at its best! All I got in return were sleepless nights, medical problems, tears, and frustration. Plus, my negativity attracted more ofrepparttar 102062 same problems.

My “problems” included being involved in an abusive marriage at age 16, no high school diploma, no work skills, no drivers license. Then my problems included a divorce afterrepparttar 102063 eight-year abusive marriage, single parenthood for six years, financial and career issues, family issues, spiritual issues……………………..

I construed all ofrepparttar 102064 above as “problems” when in reality they were growth opportunities. Apparently I needed that growth but I was so busy feeling sorry for myself that I didn’t seerepparttar 102065 positives. I also didn’t see that I had many choices and some ofrepparttar 102066 things that were happening to me could have been avoided, had I made different choices.

Doesn’t it seem likerepparttar 102067 more you focus on an issue –repparttar 102068 bigger it gets,repparttar 102069 worse it gets, andrepparttar 102070 more of it you get? Doesn’t it also seem like sometimes we continue to be faced with adversity until we “get” whatever lesson we are supposed to learn. I guess I just wasn’t “getting it” because I had one problem after another. And since I kept focusing on them, worrying, and trying to change them –repparttar 102071 more I attracted. I became angry, bitter, and felt like a victim. At some point I realized that I needed to ACCEPT life and not fight it so hard. Life is not only made up of good times but also struggles and adversity. We are all responsible for our own feelings, actions and choices. I was making things ten times worse for myself by refusing to seerepparttar 102072 positives, resistingrepparttar 102073 lessons, and viewing life unrealistically. The world is not and should not be perfect. I found that by failing to accept life’s challenges, I was failing to accept life itself.

Now by “accept” I don’t mean you must become a victim, tolerate injustice, or allow yourself to be taken advantage of. I don’t mean that you refuse to voice your needs, concerns and values. Accepting life’s challenges means humility; letting go of ego, control and worry. Stop trying to fix everything in order to make it perfect. It means admitting there are lessons to be learned, changes to make, and growth that needs to take place. It means focusing onrepparttar 102074 positives and changing your perspective. Once I realized that, amazing things began to happen – bitterness subsided, anger was handled in a more effective way, I began to make better choices, and gracefully accepted adversity. That doesn’t mean I liked it, wanted it, or jumped for joy when it happened. However, I tried to see it differently, not be intimidated by it, and not fear it. If you can give “it” a face, a name, or a shape it can be molded into whatever you want it to be. That’s when it becomes not so scary and maybe even a little bit positive.

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