Slam bam thank you Ma’am or Mr.? That’s some people’s method and it works for those who mutually agree they want a quick fix. But for most people this is not method of choice. So, why is it that this is so prevalent? The reason for this could be that American culture is simply not accepting of sexuality in general and that is why sexuality leeks into what many consider to be ‘shadow’ areas, such as pornography, strip clubs, and prostitution. Carl Jung, one of founding fathers of psychology, would definitely label sexuality as shadow side of our culture. For most people who watch or visit these areas, it’s not something they discuss with their acquaintances or even their family and friends. In fact, actual act of having sex with a person is not discussed too openly in our culture. Alfred Kinsey was one of first and most famous people to openly discuss this cultural issue in public. Sure, sex is flashed in our faces on TV shows, movies, and advertisements, but few people actually openly discuss act of having sex with another person.

For whatever reason that is, this is an article that is going to discuss one of top questions of our time: What is a great way to have sex, even for those who are inhibited. I am going to explain a term, I am certain I am not first to use it, or explain concepts like it, however, I have not seen term before. That term is Mindful Sex. Mindful sex involves slightly slowing down in every aspect of act of sex, from creating setting, to foreplay, to actual act of sex, whatever you consider that to be. The following is gist of it:

Setting:

This part is not necessary if act of sex is spontaneous in any given moment. If it is not spontaneous, sometimes it is a good idea to set setting. When creating setting, whether you are lighting candles, putting on music, or preparing special lingerie, moving slightly slower than you usually would. As you move slower begin to pay attention to your senses. If you are lighting candles, notice what you are lighting it with, is it a match, a lighter? Notice what flame looks like, how it moves, does candle have a smell, if so, take a moment to inhale it. If you are setting up special lingerie, take a moment to feel lingerie. Is it made of silk? How does silk feel? Are you spraying perfume/cologne on it? Take an extra moment to inhale that. You get idea, with anything you are doing, move slightly slower and take a moment to pay attention to what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, and tasting. You do not need to think about any of this, just notice your sensations. If you notice you are thinking about something, notice that and then simply bring your attention back to what you are sensing. By moving slightly slower you have opportunity to do this and in return make process more meaningful and enjoyable.

Foreplay and Sex:

Even puppies shouldn’t be overweight – all dogs need to be slim, not fat, to be healthy. A dog is at right weight if you can feel ribs without excess fat covering. From side, dog’s belly should be tucked up, and from above, there should be a noticeable waist in front of hips. When you feel his ribs, they should be shallow indents which you can count, although you shouldn’t be able to count them just by looking.

A major cause of overweight dogs is feeding them table scraps. While it is fun to feed your dog leftover food, there are serious consequences. One is, of course, that dog will become unsure of who is alpha in family. The alpha is one who eats first, and if dog is being fed before or during meal, hierarchy of family becomes unclear. Also, table scraps may not provide right nutrition for a dog. For example, many dogs fed table scraps can get vitamin A toxicity, and excess protein and phosphorus. If a dog is fed exclusively table scraps, they usually won’t get enough calcium and can get over-activity of parathyroid glands.

To reduce weight of fat dogs, one option is to just keep to same feeding schedule, but feed dog less, starting by feeding dog only ¾ as much as you do now. This option, however, can produce a dog that whines a lot, so many owners can add bulky vegetables to food. You can also get special low-calorie foods, which are high in bulk so dog feels better fed. Dogs don’t usually like low-calorie foods, but they will eventually eat it and get used to it.