Do your dreams, hopes and ambitions shattered by your own divorce? Do you feel completely worn out of your desire to go on with your life? Do you feel you have no more purpose or inspiration for life's achievements?You must not let yourself think along these lines. Be positive. Divorce is said to be emotionally painful and recovery from it is terribly hard, but it should not be taken as an end of your world. Accept it, learn from it and look at it as an opportunity for a new beginning for building a better you.
Wake up and control your mind. Don't allow yourself to get overwhelm by your woes. If you cry and feel sorry for yourself, it will only bog down your ability to think clearly.
Don't allow yourself to engage reconciliation fantasies. Let it end and put it to rest. Nothing you do will change it. Instead, build your life to what you want it to be from this moment onward.
One of first steps you need to do is to analyze your present situation. Grab a paper, write about your present situation, list down your problems and for each problem, list down your options and possible solutions. Don't worry about finding a solution for everything all at once. These activities will not right away change your present situation but will let you see clearly what your next step ought to be.
Focus and don't waste time. You must quickly regain control of your life and get on with attaining all your ambitions. You must reorganize your life for happiness after divorce.
You do this by leaving past behind and learned from it, analyzing your present situation, and making post-divorce plan for your life. You have to decide what you want out of your life and how you intend to get what you want. Set realistic goals and target dates for attainment.
Happiness in life comes from feeling of inner satisfaction on what you feel with whatever you do. It doesn't come from harboring grudges, by being alone or by revenge but by forgiveness and by working together for common good.
Indeed, happiness comes from your association and inner-action with other people. Thus, following a divorce, you must immediately begin mingling with other people and not only be empathetic relative to ways in which you can help them, but also interested in them as people. The more you reach out to help others, more help you'll receive in return; and at bottom line, greater your own personal happiness.