To love or to be in loveWritten by Adeyemi Adetosoye
What is basic difference between loving someone and being in love with person? Before we can be sure that we have found true love, we need to be sure what these two terminologies mean.Is it possible to meet someone, connect with person and love person’s personality, way of life, etc? Truly be comfortable with such a person? Certainly! Most of us know significant others in our lives who fall into this category. At same time, it is possible to totally connect with a significant other and feel butterflies every time with this person. But latter scenario could very much be a crush or an obsession. How do we know that our feelings don’t fall into latter group? To understand my discourse, we need to understand various emotions at work in different scenarios. Firstly, crush or obsession: One feels a crush for another person, for no good reason at all. Often, object of crush may not even be aware of it. It can be described as an irrational desire and/or admiration for other person, which is totally uncalled for, or has no rational cause. Usually, this desire is almost purely physical: has to do with physical beauty, carriage, manners, smell, etc of other person. It is a likeness from a distance, such that one has for someone whom one doesn’t even speak to, or in close proximity, with someone whom one just says hello. At best, these feelings are juvenile, immature and usually manifest in awkward years of a teenager. The obsession, however, is a more mature form of crush. While crush may be teenage in origin, obsession stems from an advanced stage of crush, where emotions and thoughts have been nurtured continuously to an inferno. Usually, at obsessive stage, obsessive person has plucked up courage to develop some little relationship with object of his or her desire without latter being aware of it. What makes latter an obsession is that object of desire is either unaware of this desire, or doesn’t appreciate it.
| | Is the Chat Room Your Child is Using Safe?Written by Rosalyn Bronstein
Have you ever stopped to think about how safe chat room your child is using is? If it happens to be AOL, MSN, or something similar, your child is in an open environment where anyone can enter and pretend to be anyone they choose.An NBC television ‘Dateline’ hidden camera investigation on 24 September 2004, revealed that predators were actively engaged in luring teenagers into meetings for purpose of having sex. Many were specifically looking for children who were underage. With help from “Perverted Justice”, an online vigilante group, volunteers posing as underage children went into chat rooms and before very long, were engaged in conversation with these men, who were eager to gather personal information – including addresses. Some suggested visiting inappropriate web sites. One man, a firefighter, used a webcam to video while sexually stimulating himself – then verified that “child” could see what he was doing. During two days ‘Dateline’ undertook their investigation, a steady stream of male visitors went to address given by “child”, in hopes of having sex with her. Instead, they found themselves face to face with a television reporter and camera crew. Since chat rooms are a way of life for many, it’s important for them to find ways of eliminating risks while still being able to use these useful tools. Simply trying to filter out undesirables isn’t enough – some will invariably get through. And these may be most dangerous -- and clever – because they know how to avoid detection.
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