To love or to be in love

Written by Adeyemi Adetosoye


What isrepparttar basic difference between loving someone and being in love withrepparttar 110864 person? Before we can be sure that we have found true love, we need to be sure what these two terminologies mean.

Is it possible to meet someone, connect withrepparttar 110865 person and loverepparttar 110866 person’s personality, way of life, etc? Truly be comfortable with such a person? Certainly! Most of us know significant others in our lives who fall into this category. Atrepparttar 110867 same time, it is possible to totally connect with a significant other and feelrepparttar 110868 butterflies every time with this person.

Butrepparttar 110869 latter scenario could very much be a crush or an obsession. How do we know that our feelings don’t fall intorepparttar 110870 latter group? To understand my discourse, we need to understandrepparttar 110871 various emotions at work inrepparttar 110872 different scenarios.

Firstly,repparttar 110873 crush or obsession: One feels a crush for another person, for no good reason at all. Often,repparttar 110874 object ofrepparttar 110875 crush may not even be aware of it. It can be described as an irrational desire and/or admiration forrepparttar 110876 other person, which is totally uncalled for, or has no rational cause. Usually, this desire is almost purely physical: has to do with physical beauty, carriage, manners, smell, etc ofrepparttar 110877 other person. It is a likeness from a distance, such that one has for someone whom one doesn’t even speak to, or in close proximity, with someone whom one just says hello. At best, these feelings are juvenile, immature and usually manifest inrepparttar 110878 awkward years of a teenager. The obsession, however, is a more mature form ofrepparttar 110879 crush. Whilerepparttar 110880 crush may be teenage in origin,repparttar 110881 obsession stems from an advanced stage ofrepparttar 110882 crush, where emotions and thoughts have been nurtured continuously to an inferno. Usually, atrepparttar 110883 obsessive stage,repparttar 110884 obsessive person has plucked uprepparttar 110885 courage to develop some little relationship withrepparttar 110886 object of his or her desire withoutrepparttar 110887 latter being aware of it. What makesrepparttar 110888 latter an obsession is thatrepparttar 110889 object ofrepparttar 110890 desire is either unaware of this desire, or doesn’t appreciate it.

Is the Chat Room Your Child is Using Safe?

Written by Rosalyn Bronstein


Have you ever stopped to think about how saferepparttar chat room your child is using is? If it happens to be AOL, MSN, or something similar, your child is in an open environment where anyone can enter and pretend to be anyone they choose.

An NBC television ‘Dateline’ hidden camera investigation on 24 September 2004, revealed that predators were actively engaged in luring teenagers into meetings forrepparttar 110863 purpose of having sex. Many were specifically looking for children who were underage.

With help from “Perverted Justice”, an online vigilante group, volunteers posing as underage children went into chat rooms and before very long, were engaged in conversation with these men, who were eager to gather personal information – including addresses. Some suggested visiting inappropriate web sites. One man, a firefighter, used a webcam to video while sexually stimulating himself – then verified thatrepparttar 110864 “child” could see what he was doing.

Duringrepparttar 110865 two days ‘Dateline’ undertook their investigation, a steady stream of male visitors went torepparttar 110866 address given byrepparttar 110867 “child”, inrepparttar 110868 hopes of having sex with her. Instead, they found themselves face to face with a television reporter and camera crew.

Since chat rooms are a way of life for many, it’s important for them to find ways of eliminatingrepparttar 110869 risks while still being able to use these useful tools. Simply trying to filter out undesirables isn’t enough – some will invariably get through. And these may berepparttar 110870 most dangerous -- and clever – because they know how to avoid detection.

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