Timothy McVeigh’s Legacy of Revenge - Evil is Evil is Evil

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

A Psychologist Speaks

“Are we like sheep? ”


If we give an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, we shall all be blind and gumming. Overtly we are dealing withrepparttar issue of crime and punishment. Covertly we are dealing with evil, revenge, and passion. As soon as we get caught inrepparttar 126317 confused web of revenge masked as justice, as soon as we re blinded by our own evil intentions, good people get lost. Revenge evolved into justice because individuals needed to give over personal retribution forrepparttar 126318 good of society. The desire for revenge probably exists for all of us inrepparttar 126319 most primordial parts of our brain, as do other feelings that we chose not to act upon. We chose not to act upon them because as humans we arerepparttar 126320 only species that can foreseerepparttar 126321 consequences of our actions. Premeditated execution is premeditated murder. If we kill McVeigh on TV-closed circuit or not---and who is naive enough to believerepparttar 126322 film won’t be hacked?--- We only perpetuaterepparttar 126323 most base and heinous of crimes---premeditated murder.

An avenger acts to preserve his kin group. Primitive men and women have always acted this way. As we became less overtly animalistic, we saw ourselves as better than beasts. If we use justice as our excuse for retaliation and revenge, we hide behind our own evil and become less thanrepparttar 126324 animals we claim not to be.

Mourning is a natural process that goes through a series of stages in order to reach closure. One TV host asked me: “How does one avoidrepparttar 126325 pain ofrepparttar 126326 loss of a loved one?” The answer is simple, but not easy. “You don’t.” One must not bypassrepparttar 126327 pain, but instead go through it and come outrepparttar 126328 other side. Those who try to sidesteprepparttar 126329 agony often wind up living it forever. The only prerequisite to loving deeply isrepparttar 126330 ability to sustain intense pain. Therefore, mourning a tragedy requires walking throughrepparttar 126331 fires of hell until one reaches healing shores and possibly evenrepparttar 126332 ability to forgive. This process requires more courage than many possess and it is easy to understand if one chooses to stop midway.

The death of a child goes againstrepparttar 126333 natural order of life and thus is rarely fully mourned and certainly never forgotten. As religion and history attest, closure comes in many forms, unveiling, visits torepparttar 126334 cemetery, perhapsrepparttar 126335 birth of a new child or through religious rituals. One does not have to watchrepparttar 126336 victims' death throes to have closure.

Why not callrepparttar 126337 upcoming June 11th eventrepparttar 126338 circus it really is? Callrepparttar 126339 movie by its rightful name and have participants pay forrepparttar 126340 play? Make it pay per view, pay to play, sell popcorn and soda, exaltrepparttar 126341 tailgate parties, and let us live with our own denied evil. Someone will make millions from this event. It may as well berepparttar 126342 government. Only then, they too would have to acknowledge their participation inrepparttar 126343 “show.” We may as well be viewing a film like Gladiator. Watching an execution or ritual murder on closed circuit TV is not so different from going torepparttar 126344 latest blood and gore flick, except that some adults and most children can’t distinguish betweenrepparttar 126345 reality and fantasy ofrepparttar 126346 event. Studies of children's reactions to cartoons indicate that when a cartoon character dies and then pops up again, kids expect that if they shoot someone in real liferepparttar 126347 same thing will occur.—They don’t understand whyrepparttar 126348 dead person doesn’t bounce back to life.

September Tears

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

September is that ritualized time of year when children of all ages leave home for school. This week, our twenty-two year old daughter left home for what seemed likerepparttar zillionth time. This time it was to return to college, and this time she left total chaos in her wake. She had transferred to a new school and her hitherto well-understood leaving and packing process seemed forgotten. It was as if she had never been away before. She experienced periods of anxiety followed by times of elation. According to her, she needed everything new and there were several significant altercations as her stepfather and I pointed out that what she already possessed was perfectly fine. She took an extra job to earn money for what she wanted and she vacillated between pride in her accomplishments and anger that we weren’t giving her all that she asked for.

At times, I burst with pride atrepparttar 126316 many wonderful things she did. Other times, I wondered where this “bratty” young woman came from. She refused help with packing and for a weekrepparttar 126317 entire house looked like a college dorm, although historically, her college room unlike her room at home, was in fact military neat. As parents who had been through school starting with several children before her, as well as many with her, we found ourselves surprisingly torn about how much help to give her. Should we imposerepparttar 126318 much-needed structure that we thought she would benefit from, or should we respect her growing edge and let her do things as she saw fit? We wanted to maintain our feelings of good will and send her off with our support and blessings, but could we? Would she let us?

Some days were easier than others. Sometimes she snapped at us. Other days we snapped at her, and still other times, my husband and I snapped at each other. It was clear that her new adventure was both exciting and scary for her. Sincerepparttar 126319 decision to transfer to a new school was all hers, she tried to hold her anxiety inward and present a brave face to all.

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