Time to Risk MoreWritten by David Wood
Time to Risk More (Note to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.) 100 people aged 100 were asked: “What do you regret most? What would you do differently?” The majority answered: “I wish I had risked more”. We regret things we don't do, far more than things we do. Fear STOPS us living. We get a sense of security.... which can be upset at any moment anyway. Control is an illusion - we can't control events. So it’s a sad joke on us humans that people who try hardest to live in their comfort zones get upset most. Once we accept that we can’t control life, and that comfort is not very fulfilling, we are free to risk. What can happen? Rejection, moving into a smaller home, losing our partner, breaking an arm, losing a job we like etc. But above all we fear looking silly, foolish, or failing at something. What would your life be like if for past 10 years you had lived without fear? What if life is a game, and we've forgotten? We attach significance to everything - no I can't ask her out because XXXX, I shouldn't apply for that job - I wouldn't get it. I'm not going to take singing lessons - I'm not any good. If you feel you are at risk of regretting not fully living your life when you lie on your death bed, I invite you to complete following exercise: Optional Exercise: Write down three areas where you play it safe. Pick one area where you are willing to risk more. Play a bigger game. Live LIFE! (Is it dating? Communication - telling truth ALWAYS! Going on a holiday - backpacking through South America? Making a commitment - moving in/marriage? LEAVING a relationship!!? Pick one, and share it with a friend.
| | Finding Your Perfect PartnerWritten by David Wood
Finding Your Perfect Partner The mistake is to go looking, before cleaning up your own "back yard". The mistake is to seek someone because you're so desperately lonely, and don't feel happy with your own company. You may find a partner using this approach, but it often won't last, and will rarely lead to fulfillment. There's nothing wrong with this approach, and this newsletter won't stop anyone doing it. BUT - here's key to entering a great relationship: You want to be having such a great time that perfect partner notices you and says "Hey - can I play too?". If you are already happy with your own company, and loving your life, then skip straight to PART II - action section. If there are some things you're ready to handle in your own life - to prepare a more attractive space for a partner to come into and play - then read on. Try following check list (add up your score - 1 for each "true"): •I have a job I enjoy. •I am happy with my chosen friends and am well supported. •I am complete (nothing unresolved or unsaid) with my close family members and friends. •I do not fret about money. (I have a reserve of cash and/or regularly save a percentage of my income). •My home and bedroom are places I would feel comfortable inviting someone to spend time in. •I am happy with my current weight, appearance and way I dress. •I feel good about food I eat and my current exercise program. •I enjoy/am comfortable spending time alone. •I have found things to do alone (other than reading or watching TV) that I enjoy. •I am comfortable expressing myself. •My week is fun - I have found things to do that are so much fun that I'm not always looking around to see who I might meet. You don't need to score 11 to have a great relationship. But if your score is not as high as you would like, why not choose today to turn ONE thing on above list into "True"? Work on your own, with a friend, or with a coach. Top Ten Practical Actions to Finding a Partner
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