Time for Change ... When your basic systems no longer work for you

Written by Edward B. Toupin

I've heard many clients and friends discuss how they just can't seem to move beyond their current situations in life. They can't find a better job, make more money, find happiness in relationships, or find fulfillment. The question I usually ask is, "What is your idea ofrepparttar perfect, fulfilling situation?" They usually sputter a few ideas then stop and realize that they truly don't know what it is that would bring them fulfillment.

As we grow and change, we eventually run intorepparttar 101955 outer limits of our safety zone known as our "belief system." The belief system confines our existence, and consists ofrepparttar 101956 knowledge and experiences that shape who we are and what we value in our lives. What was fulfilling, is now a burden. What was exciting, is now boring. At this point, we must learn how to extend, or change, our belief systems to allow us to move forward and find new meaning and new fulfillment.

--- Spheres of Belief ---

A belief system can be viewed as consisting of three distinct, yet interconnected, "spheres of belief." Each sphere represents an area of our lives that we maintain as our own secure zones. Our core values and beliefs that affect our daily lives are taken fromrepparttar 101957 combination of these three spheres.

* Sphere One: The first sphere contains relationships and our interpersonal goals. It represents our interaction with others in our lives including family and friends. It provides us with a foundation of security for interpersonal interaction and growth.

* Sphere Two: The second sphere contains professional goals. This isrepparttar 101958 area of our life that supportsrepparttar 101959 ability to work toward a vision withrepparttar 101960 knowledge to provide security for ourselves and our family.

* Sphere Three: The third and final sphere contains personal goals. This sphere contains our knowledge and experiences that define our personal desires, goals, and direction. This is alsorepparttar 101961 area in which we store our personal identities.

The primary benefit of building and maintaining your spheres is that they provide a solid and definable arena in which you can live and work comfortably. However,repparttar 101962 problem is that, occasionally, these spheres become too confining and eventually limit your growth. In essence, when you hitrepparttar 101963 outer wall of any sphere, you must determinerepparttar 101964 best way to increaserepparttar 101965 size ofrepparttar 101966 sphere to accommodate your growth and still maintain your security.

--- Establishing Core Values ---

>From birth, we constantly receive information from which we build and create a belief system and core values. The information comes from our environment, parents, people we feel are in authority, and various other inputs. In some cases,repparttar 101967 environment is positive and in others, it is negative. Regardless, it is that with which we all learn to cope until it is familiar and comfortable.


Written by Craig Lock

I believerepparttar key to effective time management is having a PLAN. Once you have done that, communicate your plans to others involved in your life (those nearest and dearest to you), or those people working with you in business.


1. Prioritise your goals. Set uprepparttar 101954 following:

* A weekly plan: Plan for a week at a time.

* A 'don't forget' list.

* A 'what now' list.

2. Focus onrepparttar 101955 important things -repparttar 101956 things that really matter to you.

3. Throw out irrelevant bits of paper.

4. No matter what pressure you are under, try to control your stress level at all times.

5. Control interruptions (even a 'closed door' policy is not a bad thing).

6. Don't procrastinate.

7. Prepare a reminder list of essential details.

8. Plan to getrepparttar 101957 routine tasks out ofrepparttar 101958 way as quickly as possible.

9. Develop routines. Ask yourself this question: can any (procedures) be eliminated or speeded up?

10. Focus on one task at a time.


10. Pat yourself onrepparttar 101959 back each day by reviewing your accomplishments.

11. Self monitor and self evaluate your progress onrepparttar 101960 way to your goals.

12. Set and keep deadlines for yourself and others (Don't "interrupt" yourself).

13. Learn to say "no" to others' demands.

14. Slow down for success.

15. Distinguishrepparttar 101961 really urgent fromrepparttar 101962 seemingly urgent. Sort out low priority work. Put it aside for later or eliminate it totally.

16. Encourage others to get torepparttar 101963 point onrepparttar 101964 telephone or at meetings. Without being too rude, of course!

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