Dr. Respect at http://marcusgentry.blogspot.com says we must “protect, organize and prioritize our time”. If you are having any of above listed difficulties, then my guess is you are missing at least one of those elements.

Protecting our time is important. We all have same amount of time in a day. It’s what we do with it that is critical. Do you find yourself doing things you really don’t want to do or spending time with people who take more than they give? These are examples of not protecting your time.

Your time is your gift to spend, as you will. You can spend it wisely or you can waste it. It’s your choice. However, one thing you can’t do is get it back to do over again.

Sometimes we all do things that we don’t really want to be doing but when we do, it should be in furtherance of a bigger goal that we have. Maybe we don’t want to be going to work today but we want to collect our paycheck at end of week, so it’s something we choose to do to get to bigger payoff.

However, there are things that we do that just aren’t important, don’t lead to anything and waste our time. Can you think of any activities that fall into that category for you? Do you know that average American watches on average three hours of television each day? How is that for a time waster?

I know when I first got my computer, one of things I unwisely spent my time on was computer games. I don’t mean an occasional game here or there. I’m talking about an addiction, an obsession---playing solitaire until 2 AM. If I didn’t get that under control, I would have not only been wasting my time, but I would have been wasting my life.

I have three general categories for which I like to protect my time. One is for making progress toward my work/life goals. These are things I do to move me forward in life. These are generally geared toward helping people in some way, generating more clientele, and increasing my revenue streams.

Slam bam thank you Ma’am or Mr.? That’s some people’s method and it works for those who mutually agree they want a quick fix. But for most people this is not method of choice. So, why is it that this is so prevalent? The reason for this could be that American culture is simply not accepting of sexuality in general and that is why sexuality leeks into what many consider to be ‘shadow’ areas, such as pornography, strip clubs, and prostitution. Carl Jung, one of founding fathers of psychology, would definitely label sexuality as shadow side of our culture. For most people who watch or visit these areas, it’s not something they discuss with their acquaintances or even their family and friends. In fact, actual act of having sex with a person is not discussed too openly in our culture. Alfred Kinsey was one of first and most famous people to openly discuss this cultural issue in public. Sure, sex is flashed in our faces on TV shows, movies, and advertisements, but few people actually openly discuss act of having sex with another person.

For whatever reason that is, this is an article that is going to discuss one of top questions of our time: What is a great way to have sex, even for those who are inhibited. I am going to explain a term, I am certain I am not first to use it, or explain concepts like it, however, I have not seen term before. That term is Mindful Sex. Mindful sex involves slightly slowing down in every aspect of act of sex, from creating setting, to foreplay, to actual act of sex, whatever you consider that to be. The following is gist of it:

Setting:

This part is not necessary if act of sex is spontaneous in any given moment. If it is not spontaneous, sometimes it is a good idea to set setting. When creating setting, whether you are lighting candles, putting on music, or preparing special lingerie, moving slightly slower than you usually would. As you move slower begin to pay attention to your senses. If you are lighting candles, notice what you are lighting it with, is it a match, a lighter? Notice what flame looks like, how it moves, does candle have a smell, if so, take a moment to inhale it. If you are setting up special lingerie, take a moment to feel lingerie. Is it made of silk? How does silk feel? Are you spraying perfume/cologne on it? Take an extra moment to inhale that. You get idea, with anything you are doing, move slightly slower and take a moment to pay attention to what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, and tasting. You do not need to think about any of this, just notice your sensations. If you notice you are thinking about something, notice that and then simply bring your attention back to what you are sensing. By moving slightly slower you have opportunity to do this and in return make process more meaningful and enjoyable.

Foreplay and Sex: