When growing up, if there was a sibling dispute, mom had perfect solution. She would refuse to choose. In stead, mom would bang our heads together. She'd say that it takes two to fight ~ so we both got it. Now, that really hurt! But, it worked, every time. We'd hush, immediately. Though we didn't like it, we didn't dare say another word.

Even today, we make effort to get a-long with family. Though, that doesn't solve all things ~ as we look to family for approval as to who we are. In that way, they still disappoints us ... always expecting something more.

It may have developed as a result of depression, when parents prayed that their children would never have to experience anything so hard. But, whatever case, it use to be that adults believed way to encourage their young, to be all that they could be, was to find fault with everything that could, yet, be improved upon. No doubt, somewhere, we've experienced, first hand, that mentality still lingering.

Yet, best tool we can provide is to receive our children as already valuable members; who's gifts, abilities, thoughts, heart, and feelings are important, received, and appreciated as unique and special creations of (not us, but) God. (Hey, this works in churches, too.)

It is quite scary to realize that many individuals who get alcohol rehab are those that have been charged countless times with drunk driving. Unfortunately, it is not easy for any parent to realize that their child is learning to drive on a road surrounded by people who drink and drive. But, reality is that most of individuals who get into rehab only do it because they are being forced into it by law. This is simply not right road to take.