Ties that BindWritten by Joyce C. Lock
~ Ties that Bind ~
When growing up, if there was a sibling dispute, mom had perfect solution. She would refuse to choose. In stead, mom would bang our heads together. She'd say that it takes two to fight ~ so we both got it. Now, that really hurt! But, it worked, every time. We'd hush, immediately. Though we didn't like it, we didn't dare say another word.
Even today, we make effort to get a-long with family. Though, that doesn't solve all things ~ as we look to family for approval as to who we are. In that way, they still disappoints us ... always expecting something more.
It may have developed as a result of depression, when parents prayed that their children would never have to experience anything so hard. But, whatever case, it use to be that adults believed way to encourage their young, to be all that they could be, was to find fault with everything that could, yet, be improved upon. No doubt, somewhere, we've experienced, first hand, that mentality still lingering.
Yet, best tool we can provide is to receive our children as already valuable members; who's gifts, abilities, thoughts, heart, and feelings are important, received, and appreciated as unique and special creations of (not us, but) God. (Hey, this works in churches, too.)
That's right. We're called upon to teach our children, but not to try to re-create them into an image of us or us we had hoped to be ... no graven images. News Flash ... when God made you, your mate, children, siblings, friends, neighbors, boss, and even your preacher ... in all cases, God did not make a mistake.
Alcohol Rehab, Getting HelpWritten by Ben Shar
Often times, people who need help most don’t get it. Unfortunately, for those who need to have alcohol rehab, many will not even have opportunity. If you look at faces of those people in rehab, you will see that they are lucky ones. Many others, in slightly better or worse states of alcohol abuse will never make it this far. But, for those that are in alcohol rehab, they have opportunity to pull through this disease and get help they need and never touch a bottle or a drink again.
It is quite scary to realize that many individuals who get alcohol rehab are those that have been charged countless times with drunk driving. Unfortunately, it is not easy for any parent to realize that their child is learning to drive on a road surrounded by people who drink and drive. But, reality is that most of individuals who get into rehab only do it because they are being forced into it by law. This is simply not right road to take.
Instead, for those who need help now, before they get behind wheel of a car it is important to seek out that help. If you think about yourself for a moment, and think about how you feel about your drinking, you will find that deep down you know you need help. For those who think about next drink, for those who wonder how they will pay for their next drink or those who get angry when someone asks if they have a problem…these are people that need to seek help.