Things I Learned from Mister Rogers

Written by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach


Fred Rogers is one of my heroes. He was 'gentle before gentle was cool.'

1. You can never go down, never go down, never go downrepparttar drain.

When life can involve divorce, layoffs, losing a child, moving 2 weeks before your baby's due and you have a toddler and a dog with a new litter of puppies, working full-time and being a single-parent, or starting a new career at 55, it's good to know you can never go downrepparttar 123634 drain!

2. You can stop when you want to, stop when you wish.

Ever say to yourself-stoprepparttar 123635 madness? Mister Rogers reminds us that we can stop when we want to. Makerepparttar 123636 carousel slow down so you can enjoyrepparttar 123637 ride. You're in control. Stoprepparttar 123638 roller coaster and get off. End a relationship that isn't working. Change a career whenrepparttar 123639 passion's gone. Eliminaterepparttar 123640 tolerations in your life! You can stop when you want to, stop when you wish.

3. It's great to be able to stop when you've planned a thing that's wrong and to be able to do something else instead.

Problem-solving! When you're working at a problem andrepparttar 123641 answer isn't forthcoming, try something new. The solution isn't doubling your efforts at a failing proposition. If you're havingrepparttar 123642 same things happen over and over again in your relationships, stop what you're doing and do something else. Try something new! If you keep doing' what you've been doin', you're gonna keep gettin' what you been gettin'.

4. There's something deep inside that helps us become what we can.

Develop your intuition and pay attention to what it tells you. It's repparttar 123643 best guide to what's best for you and what will work for you. Listen to that still, small voice inside and let it be your guide ... it's an EQ competency.

5. Whenrepparttar 123644 whole wide world seems oh so wrong and nothing you do seems very right, you can punch a bag, pound some clay or some dough, or round up friends for a game of tag or see how fast you can go.

Change what you can, and those things you can't ... go chop some wood, or take a bike ride, or call your coach and talkrepparttar 123645 feelings out. You might as well learn to manage those feelings constructively now, becauserepparttar 123646 stakes are just going to get higher in life, sorepparttar 123647 feelings will too. It's a lifelong mission changing what you can, and finding some play-doh when you can't!

Do you want to achieve your goals?

Written by arina nikitina


We all have dreams. But almost no one sets goals to achieve them. Everyone knows that goal setting works, but almost nobody uses it. Now there are two questions:

1. WHY?

Butrepparttar most important question is:

2. What are YOU going to do about it?

First let's take a look at four major reasons why people don't set goals.

1. THEY ARE AFRAID TO FAIL

The fear of failure is probablyrepparttar 123632 greatest single obstacle to success. Many people refuse to set goals because they fear they, and others, will be able to determine if they were successful.

They don't realize that is is IMPOSSIBLE TO FAIL in goal setting. There is just no such thing as failure. But there are such things as OBSTACLES.

Winners don't view failures as failures; rather, they consider them to be learning experiences and opportunities.

Thomas Edison sure didn't succeed with his first light bulb. He once said he discovered a few thousand ways forrepparttar 123633 light bulb not to work before he perfectedrepparttar 123634 winning combination.

Obstacles will come our way, however, if we perform like a heat-seeking missile. We too can go around, correct our course, and move steadily toward our goals. To get there - and be successful - we must overcome our obstacles and take action.

There is just one guaranteed way to fail - don't set goals at all.

2. THEY DON'T REALIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF GOAL SETTING

Some people think that their dreams can come true without goal setting. They don't realize that there is no such thing as miracle.

You actually have to DO something to MAKE your dream a reality.

When you set a goal you create a step-by-step plan, your path to your dreams. And then you just have to follow this path, one step at time.

Goals give purpose, meaning and direction. By setting goals, and measuring their achievement, you are able to see what you have done and what you are capable of.

Only goals can change you from a dreamer to a doer.

3. THEY DON'T KNOW HOW

They don't teach us in school HOW to set goals. Although goal setting isrepparttar 123635 most important skill in humans life. If you know HOW to set goals, you can achieve ANYTHING.

An even worse mistake that people make is to assume that they already know how to set goals. A person who assumes that he or she has a critical skill when, in reality, his or her understanding of it is rudimentary at best, is in great danger of failing at life.

There are two good free tutorials onrepparttar 123636 net about goal setting:

"How to Set and Achieve a Goal" ( http://goal-setting-guide.com/free-tutorial.html )

and

"Goal Setting - A 20 Minute Tutorial" ( http://about-goal-setting.com )

4. THEY ARE NOT SERIOUS

Many people don't set goals is that they are simply not serious. They are talkers instead of doers.

They want to be more successful, they want to improve their lives, but they are not willing to makerepparttar 123637 necessary effort. They do not haverepparttar 123638 "fire inrepparttar 123639 belly" that translates into a burning desire to make something of themselves, to make their lives bigger and better and more exciting.

The only way you can tell what a person really believes is by actions, not words. It is not what you say, or what you intend, or what you wish or hope or pray for, but ONLY WHAT YOU DO that counts.

Your true values and beliefs are only and always expressed in your behavior. One person who will take action is worth ten brilliant talkers who do nothing.

So... What reason applies to you? Are you going to change it? Are you going to DO something about it? The only thing you need is DESIRE. And right now you have only one decision to make:

to do it or do it not.

Don't wait for a miracle, take action! Learn more about goal setting, about tips and tricks how to achieve your goals, and then use them to make all your dreams a reality!

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Do you want to achieve your goals? By Arina Nikitina

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