I see it with two college students who work for me and are always hanging out at my house. It seems like they work and work, and yet graduation feels no closer. I see it in my carpenter husband. He stresses out when a job is finishing up because “what are we going to do next?” But he also stresses out when job is going because “how are we going to get this all done?”

Now I see it in my own life. I set up meetings to talk with people about my books. The meetings always go well—some even go really well. But then, sales don’t come through like I thought they would (read: hoped they would). It’s not that God’s not on my side. I know for a fact He is because I’ve seen His hand at work in too many areas of my life to doubt it. Yet I’m still left wondering, why does it have to be this hard?

It is not by accident who resides on sunny side and who on shadow side of street. You find key to success in what you think all day.

If your thoughts focus on abundance, love and integrity in your actions, this inner state manifests as success in outer world. If you feel bogged down with worries, failures or fear of future, you draw misfortune and failure towards you.

Transactional analysis tells us that winner or failure scripts are a combination of imprints, conditions and learned behaviour. The good news is: They are not a destiny but you can change them. Thanks to Abraham Maslow and other pioneers in field of transpersonal and quantum psychology we got some good ideas of what distinguishes successful people from those who feel like being victims of circumstances.

Successful people influence and shape reality according to their own needs instead of letting 'facts' of life determine their fate.

Successful people are creators, not victims of circumstances. Their attitudes, thoughts and actions are open for New and flexible enough to respond to unexpected.

Successful people do not have problems but challenges that need to be resolved. Those challenges activate and inspire all their talents and resources while concept of problems leads to worrying and being bogged down by forces of life.

In order to access and use your full potential you need physical and inner strength. Many people know what is good for them but they do not have self-discipline to let go of bad habits and to establish good habits.

Successful people work a lot, not out of duty or greed but because they feel inspired by their own vision and mission in life.