There Are Always More Nos Than YesesWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Although it may not seem true, if we think about it, we will come to realize that there are always more nos than yeses. We will be turned down more often than not. The good news is that more nos we get more yeses will increase. It is a numbers game. The more often we ask more our chances of success increase.
If, just for fun, we took a jar and put a penny in it for every no we received and took out a penny for every yes, we would never empty jar. The nos will far exceed yeses. There is of course one way to limit number of nos one receives, and that is to never ask. No comes from putting ourselves out there, being brave and taking risks. The good news is that being brave and taking risks usually doesn't call for any extra human capabilities. It could be as simple as asking someone out on a date or applying for a new job. A simple yes is easy, but most likely not. It is never easy to stretch our comfort zone and take risk of being rejected. Thankfully, no one dies from rejection, and no simply means next opportunity.
In an interview with actress Christina Applegate, she shares how being a teen star actually made it more difficult to break into adult acting. After ten years starring as Kelly Bundee on television sitcom "Married with Children," Applegate found it difficult to land adult acting parts. "You give everything you have and it's No!. You hear no so many more times than yes.". Fortunately, Applegate did not give up, and ten years after her teen success, she has created a successful adult acting career. For Applegate, as with rest of us, no doesn't mean stop, it means keep going. No is just one more hurdle closer to yes.
Don't SettleWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Settling is about not embracing what is best for you, and accepting what you really don't want. When you settle, you accept less than you deserve. Settling becomes a habit and a way of life, but it doesn't have to be. According to Maureen Dowd, "The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for! People settle every day in every way. They settle for unsatisfying jobs, boring lives, and stale relationships. People settle in part because they don't realize they can have better, or even that they deserve better. People also settle because of fear. Fear holds us back from embracing what we really want. According to Bo Bennett, "Every day, people settle for less than they deserve. They are only partially living, or at best living a partial life. Every human being has potential for greatness.
The only way to truly embrace your greatness is to stop settling. You have to stop settling for a job that isn't challenging, a life that isn't fulfilling, and relationships that are uninspiring. Life is way too short to settle.