Do your recall your defining moment? Is there a spot somewhere in your life when you can look back and say, "yes, without a doubt, that one moment in my life determined who I am today"?Individuals interested in personal development are often more likely to be able to locate a defining moment in their past, perhaps even several. But
vast majority of people go through life without
awareness of
power of
defining moment. The majority of people are unaware there are defining moments.
What is a defining moment? It may not be what you think. A defining moment is a point in life when decision meets action. In a most dramatic example, a murderer's defining moment is that split second when
decision is made to pull
trigger and
action is taken. Prior to pulling
trigger- that individual is not a murderer- after pulling
trigger- that person is defined as a murderer.
Let's hope none of us ever has that type of defining moment. Actually, we face defining moments more often that we realize. It is because we face them so frequently and so rapidly that we fail to recognize them for what they are.
For example, when someone pulls in front of us in traffic and we decide to flip them
finger; at that moment we have decided to be defined as rude. When we decide to tip twenty percent instead of fifteen, we have a defining moment. We have defined ourselves as good tippers. Examples of defining moments are endless and available for
interpretation. Use your imagination and find them in your everyday life.
The true power of
defining moment is in repetition. In our traffic example, if one is cut off again and decides not to flip
finger, they may be defining themselves as tolerant. If they consistently flip
finger each and every time they are cut off, they are more likely to be defined as rude. When repetition becomes consistent, we create patterns that become habits. Habits become personality traits and these define who we are.