Very few people would argue with fact that creating successful relationships is often one of biggest challenges we face as human beings. The strange thing is that life can become even more challenging when they end. But is it really necessary to break down when you break up?
Below are three simple ideas that will help guide you to re-build your life on your own.
1. Become firmly grounded in present moment.
If you find yourself on other side of a relationship, it is important that you have a deep awareness of what you are feeling in present moment. Continually check in with yourself. Notice what is going on with you if you are experiencing emotional upset. Your body is always in present, but where is your mind?
It may be very tempting for you to delve into your past replaying events over and over again in your head. The reality is, you can't change your past, so trying to do so is futile. Just accept everything as it is. Find peace around thought that both of you were operating to best of your ability, given circumstances, at any moment in time. Equally futile is casting your mind into future, wondering what life could have, would have, should have been like had you stayed with your partner. The truth is that your future is going to look somewhat different to what you may have previously anticipated. Do your best to accept it.
If you manage to stay in present moment, most of pain you will experience will be growing pains. You are transforming from one state of being to another. It's not going to be easy. Whether your new state of being is a good one largely comes down to choices you make. If you take responsibility for where you are right now you will slowly begin to see you life unfold as it should.
2. Breaking up with someone is a creative as well as a destructive process.