The Truth Behind Having Children

Written by Dr. Randy Wysong


Inrepparttar beginning, having children was just a byproduct of sexual instinct. Later it was a means to increase manpower for survival (huntingrepparttar 149599 mastodon, tillingrepparttar 149600 fields). It was just a part of life, even what one aspired to. A strapping daughter was great, a robust son perhaps even better. Having children can be an expression of love to our mate. How more intimate can two people be than to literally mix their biological (genetic) essence into a tangible package. Children also help cementrepparttar 149601 marital bond throughrepparttar 149602 shared common interest. There's ego involved too. For how wouldrepparttar 149603 world be right without our personal genetic packages continuing on, right?

But bearing children is serious business, not just a diversion from boredom or a means to pacify our insecurities or ego fantasies. In modern civilization things are different than inrepparttar 149604 bush or onrepparttar 149605 farm. The world already has more than enough people for its resources. Children do not help families survive; rather they are an economic burden.

To not have children is to miss out on something not duplicated by any other possible experience. It is such a joy that some parents keep repeating it without a full understanding ofrepparttar 149606 long-term responsibilities and consequences. Regardless of their age you never really breakrepparttar 149607 cord. So procreation is not recreation. Todayís world requires an intelligent approach to most everything. Certainly, would be parents should be educated on child rearing as well asrepparttar 149608 impact population pressure has onrepparttar 149609 world. In fact, nobody should be allowed to have children without such training. Itís insane that such an important responsibility requires nothing more than capable (and always willing) genitals.

But since there is no such training or requirement thereof, Iíll take onrepparttar 149610 duty here. Before you become Mr. or Mrs. Fecund, considerrepparttar 149611 following:

1.Babies grow up to be in-your-face teenagers and adults. They are not always so cuddly, cute and compliant. Yes, you will be god to them for about 12 wondrous years, but thatís it. Then you will haverepparttar 149612 rest of their life with responsibility without authorityÖthey want you there to provide and pick uprepparttar 149613 pieces but donít want to follow your advice.

2.You will not make your children what you want them to be. They are not your toys, something to solve some ego or insecurity problem you have or a glob of clay for you to shape into your perfect view of a child (modeled after you, of course). They will not change fromrepparttar 149614 first time you can recognize their personality inrepparttar 149615 crib until they die of old age. Donít try to spank them into submission or conformity to your dream of what they should be. It will not change them but it will leave you with memories to regret. All you can do is provide a healthy and loving environment for them to be what they will be. The rest is up to them.

3.You will never stop feeling a sense of responsibility toward them regardless of their age. You will never stop feeling guilt that you should have done more when they were young.

4.Children are a dramatic departure from a singles life and take a huge amount of energy and effort. It is no longer all about you. They require total devotion. If you have children when you are biologically ready in your teens, you will have plenty of energy to raise them, just not a whole lot of savvy to go along with that. Youíre still a kid yourself and have not yet even figured out thatrepparttar 149616 world does not rotate around you. They will be raised and gone while you are in your thirties. If you have children in your thirties, you will have plenty of energy to begin but will be running out of steam in your forties and fifties. You will have much more life wisdom to help in their rearing though. Having children when you are quite young is therefore not a good idea, having them when you are quite old isnít either. My vote, however, is to have them when you are older (not too), smarter, less egocentric, more mellow, are not thinking bar-scene and appreciate and savorrepparttar 149617 things around you more. A child is something to savor. 5.You will never stop feeling as though they should listen to you (rightly so), but they will pretty much stop when they are about 12.

A Fun Day at the Zoo

Written by Susanne Myers


Lions and Tigers and Zebras Ė Oh My Spend a Fun Day atrepparttar Zoo

When wasrepparttar 149490 last time you took your kids torepparttar 149491 zoo? Do you remember how much fun they had, and do you remember how much you enjoyed watching their faces light up when they watchedrepparttar 149492 penguins being fed, orrepparttar 149493 chimpanzees chasing each other aroundrepparttar 149494 exhibit? Isnít it time you packed up your family and headed torepparttar 149495 nearest zoo?

A day atrepparttar 149496 zoo isnít just a fun way forrepparttar 149497 entire family to spendrepparttar 149498 day, but also a great opportunity for you to teach your child about all sorts of stuff. There is of courserepparttar 149499 obvious, like namingrepparttar 149500 different animals with your preschooler or readingrepparttar 149501 exhibit signs with your school-age child. Letís take a look at some other teaching opportunities.

If you are taking a preschooler torepparttar 149502 zoo, talk to him about what soundsrepparttar 149503 different animals make. Ask him what soundrepparttar 149504 monkey makes and then ask him to listen torepparttar 149505 animal. Donít forget to praise him for how closely he imitated a monkeyís call.

There are also plenty of opportunities inrepparttar 149506 Zoo to talk about colors. What color isrepparttar 149507 lion, how aboutrepparttar 149508 flamingo? You can also countrepparttar 149509 animals with your child. How many elephants can you see? Another idea is to talk to your preschooler about what a particular animal likes to eat. Some of his suggestions may be outright funny. My little cousin figured that flamingos only ate cotton candy, since they were so pink.

For a school-aged child,repparttar 149510 questions should of course be a little more challenging. Talk about whererepparttar 149511 animal originally came from. You can leave it atrepparttar 149512 continent, or look atrepparttar 149513 exhibit signs to figure out what country exactly they came from and then ask your child what continent that country is in, whatrepparttar 149514 climate is like and also how this particular animal has adapted torepparttar 149515 climate. For example, a polar bearís coat is white so he blends in with allrepparttar 149516 snow and ice.

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