1. Sexual attraction is based on a primitive and powerful feeling that can "hijack" us.

It comes from reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It is not, in itself, a reason to act or react. Don’t let yourself get "hijacked." Take a second look; get up to your limbic brain (bonding, parenting, relationships) and your neocortex (thinking)for this important decision. More on this later.

2. Touching is very important to our mental and physical health.

Choose a partner who is affectionate, who likes to touch you and be touched.

3. Most communication is nonverbal.

Choose a partner who looks at you with affection and kindness in their eyes. Emotions are contagious and largely transmitted through eyes!

4. Think as well as feel your way through this decision.

Emotional intelligence means using all 3 of your brains -- including neocortex, thinking brain. Contrary to what some people think, EQ doesn't mean "only emotions." It means thinking as well as feeling. Consider compatibility -- family background, values, goals, how he or she takes care of their physical and mental health. Consider general living style. The find-a-roommate-site asks just a few questions. Among them are -- drug use, when you like to get up and go to bed, your level of neatness, and how quiet you like it to be. Pay attention. You’ll be living with this person. Do use your intuition. It's a strong guide. Take advantage of it. If you need to develop your intuition, work with an EQ ( http://www.susandunn.cc ) or Intuition coach ( http://www.bemyguide.net ).

5. Consider emotional self-awareness of your partner, and their awareness of your emotions; their ability at empathy.

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