The Superman Syndrome

Written by Kathy Paauw


"Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans." --John Lennon

I just got back from a business trip torepparttar East Coast. While I was away several hundred email messages accumulated, in addition to a tall stack of postal mail and a full voice mail box. Had I been here to respond to all of it as it came in, I would have spent much more time doing so. When faced withrepparttar 124097 massive volume, I became much more efficient. I asked myself, "What's most important?" And my clarity and focus were much sharper as a result. When I returned from my trip, what I really wanted was to spend time with my family... not with my email, inbox, or telephone. With great clarity and intent, I deleted much of my email without even reading it.

While on my trip I came across a book titled, "The Superman Syndrome: Whyrepparttar 124098 Information Age Threatens Your Future and What You Can Do About It," by Robert Kamm. In his book, Kamm notes that Americans are working an average of six weeks to three months more per year than they did just a decade ago. Additionally, more than 70% of people in offices work weekends and more than 70% of American parents feel they don't spend enough time with their kids. Kamm says thatrepparttar 124099 Superman Syndrome is characterized by an inability or unwillingness to throwrepparttar 124100 off-switch... whether on a cell phone,repparttar 124101 computer, or in our own brains. We arerepparttar 124102 most distracted generation inrepparttar 124103 history ofrepparttar 124104 human race. And distracted people make for distracted and unavailable parents -- perhaps one ofrepparttar 124105 biggest threats our growing generation faces inrepparttar 124106 21st Century.

Clients often come to me feeling overwhelmed. They want more control and balance in their lives. I explain thatrepparttar 124107 control comes from within. Sheddingrepparttar 124108 Superman cape isrepparttar 124109 first step! I tell my clients that they must be willing to bypassrepparttar 124110 external distractions and demands on their time, look inside to their own values and priorities, and then make choices so their focus and activities match these values and priorities. For example, if you truly value your health and your family, but you are working too many hours to take care of yourself or to be home while your family is still awake, then you've lost control of your life.

Kamm notes thatrepparttar 124111 commitment to slow down and focus on things that really matter in life must be made atrepparttar 124112 corporate as well asrepparttar 124113 individual level. He states that "the Superman Syndrome is a dangerous workplace success formula that forces men and women to leap tall buildings and outrun speeding bullets -- atrepparttar 124114 expense of personal lives, families, children and even business productivity. This represents a major hypocrisy implicit in nearly every boardroom in America: The belief that we should be accountable to work but not to our families."

This begsrepparttar 124115 question, "What does it matter if you winrepparttar 124116 rat race?" You're still a rat!

Change -- even good change -- is stressful for most people. And today,repparttar 124117 speed of change is doubling exponentially every 18 months. The deafening roar of change isrepparttar 124118 reason that 70% of illness is due to stress, andrepparttar 124119 top six leading causes of death for American adults are stress- related. It is not change itself -- but our inability to adapt to change -- that createsrepparttar 124120 rub for most of us. We are creatures of habit, and old patterns are hard to change, even when they no longer serve us well. Health care professionals note that we are so addicted to our fast-paced lives that it often takes a life-threatening crisis such as a heart attack or cancer to slow us down. Makingrepparttar 124121 changes necessary to leaverepparttar 124122 fast lane behind is not quick, and for most, it is not easy. That's why practices such as yoga, meditation, and working with a life coach have become so popular.

Time to Graduate: Get a Life!

As we approachrepparttar 124123 time of year to celebrate graduations, I find it particularly fitting to share excerpts from a commencement address made by Anna Quindlen. As she began her speech torepparttar 124124 graduating class of Villanova University in Pennsylvania, this novelist toldrepparttar 124125 audience, "My work is human nature. Real life is all I know. Don't ever confuserepparttar 124126 two, your life and your work. The second is only part ofrepparttar 124127 first."

Quindlen went on to share some important life lessons that all of us can benefit from:

"You will walk out of here this afternoon with only one thing that no one else has. There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree; there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a living. But you will berepparttar 124128 only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or your life on a bus, or in a car, or atrepparttar 124129 computer. Not justrepparttar 124130 life of your mind, butrepparttar 124131 life of your heart. Not just your bank account but your soul.

The Art of Gratefulness

Written by Michael Angier


The word appreciate has several meanings. One is to be thankful or show gratitude. Another is to raise or increase in value--such as how a good investment appreciates with time. I think that by appreciating--practicing gratefulness--the things we have and want in our lives also increase.

In our hectic, fast-paced lives, itís easy to forget aboutrepparttar many things for which we have to be grateful. We tend to be goal-seeking, achievement-oriented people.

And thereís nothing wrong with that.

However, itís vitally important that we not lose sight ofrepparttar 124096 things that are near and dear--things we all too easily take for granted.

What we focus on expands. If we focus onrepparttar 124097 problems in our lives, they tend to increase. If we focus onrepparttar 124098 good things we already have, they too, have a tendency to grow.

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