The Spectacular YouWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
I recently received a letter addressed to Spectacular Rachelle Lee. At first I thought it was a joke. Who would write such a thing? I then thought maybe it was a mistake. Whatever it was, I knew it did not feel comfortable. It turned out to be an advertisement, for what I am not even sure. What I am sure of is that way it was addressed caught my attention, and I realized how difficult it can be to own just how spectacular I am.
We are all spectacular, but how often do we own it? Would we really go around calling ourselves spectacular, brilliant or wonderful? But how many of us call ourselves other names? When you make a mistake, forget a friend's birthday, or in other ways act human, how often do you launch into names like stupid, idiot or worse? Those seem, in some ways, to be more comfortable words, but to call ourselves more positive adjectives is challenging.
I am guessing that most of us have a difficult time owning how spectacular we are because we were told things like “Don't blow your own horn!”, and “Don't brag!”. However, as I am fond of saying, it isn't bragging if it is true, and it is true that all of us have qualities that can be described as spectacular, fabulous and more. We simply have to own it.
Emergency LivingWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
There are times, when I am driving in my car being passed by so many other cars speeding along, that I could swear there is an emergency somewhere and I wasn't invited. It seems everyone is in a hurry to get somewhere. The other day I was sitting at a red light, light turned green and car in front of me sped away. At next traffic light same car was sitting in front of me and, when light turned green, off car sped. This went on for three lights. I must say that I was rather amused that this speed demon only seemed to be speeding to a red light, and wasn't getting any further along than I was. In life, this same phenomenon can happen. Going faster doesn't mean we will get where we are going any sooner. We just burn more energy, or gas if we are in car, than we would if we went at a much safer speed.
I am reminded of Stephen Covey's quadrants. Tasks are classified as important, but not urgent or important and urgent. Most things don't fall into important and urgent quadrant. In fact, few things do, but many of us operate out of that quadrant. We treat everything like it is an emergency, and we rush around putting out fires that don't exist. The problem with treating everything like an emergency is, when we really have one, we might not recognize it or we will be so burned out that we won't be able to deal with it properly.
If you are not sure whether you are emergency living here is a list of signs: - You are consistently five to ten minutes late - Clutter has become a way of life - You are either in "hurry up" or "catch up" mode - You consistently forget things and misplace things - You ran out of patience a long time ago - You take pride in how much you can do - You consider multi-tasking an art form - You promise yourself that, when life slows down, you will take time to do things you always wanted to do - You make promises you don't keep