The Soul Mate Debate

Written by Rinatta Paries

Are you looking or waiting for your soul mate? Many singles spend a lot of energy and time waiting and searching for their soul mate. But are soul mates found or created?

The notion of soul mates stems fromrepparttar concepts of reincarnation and karma. Soul mates are defined as two souls reincarnating alongside each other over and over again, playing different roles to each other, such as lovers, adversaries, parent and child, victim and murderer, coworkers, etc. Some will argue soul mates were separated atrepparttar 101874 beginning of time, and so in each lifetime they seek to reunite in some way.

If you were to find your soul mate,repparttar 101875 theory is you would be able to instantly recognize him or her. You would feel connected, at home, recognized, valued, loved again, instantly. The two of you will reconnect, fall in love all over again and live happily ever after.

Unfortunately, this is not quite howrepparttar 101876 soul mate thing works. Here are some sobering thoughts aboutrepparttar 101877 notion of soul mates:

* Each of us could have an unlimited number of soul mates. We have many close relationships in a lifetime, so who is to say any one or all of them could be our soul mates?

* Intimate relationships with soul mates are less likely to work out. That's because if someone is truly your soul mate, you have been aroundrepparttar 101878 block with each other too many times in too many different ways. Along with intense passion for each other, you will also feel intense anger and resentment.

* If you instantly recognize or feel connected to someone, does that automatically mean he or she is your soul mate? It could be that this person simply has very similar childhood family patterns or adult dating patterns as you do, allowing you to feel instantly at home.

* If you immediately recognize someone who was a lover in one past life and an adversary in another, how likely is an intimate relationship betweenrepparttar 101879 two of you to work out?

* The idea that soul mates will find and instantly recognize each other presumes past life memories are atrepparttar 101880 surface and can be tapped into at any time. Do you remember your past lives, especially if you do not believe in past lives and reincarnation?

Aromas to Heal a Broken Heart

Written by Francoise Rapp

Too often people write off break-ups as just another page to turn inrepparttar book of life. There is some truth in that, but break-ups should be taken a bit more seriously. After all, this isrepparttar 101873 end of a relationship. And this loss can be as painful as losing a loved one in death. To heal it takes time, self-care, and conscious processing of your emotions. It is vital that you allow this healing process to occur, and take advantage ofrepparttar 101874 situation to treat yourself with gentleness and nurturing.

Here are some other things to keep in mind during this transformative time:

Avoid any big decisions.

Go intorepparttar 101875 pain andrepparttar 101876 feelings. There is no way out but to get through it...and you will!

Take long aromatherapy baths with appropriate holistic blends. See recipes below.

Cry when you need to. Don't let others tell you to just get over it.

Be VERY selfish.

Surround yourself with positive and happy people.

Dare to ask for a lot of hugs.

Get a dog or cat, or cuddle withrepparttar 101877 ones you have.

Write really awful, bitchy, letters to your ex. Write everything you would love to say. Burn them inrepparttar 101878 sink. Runrepparttar 101879 water to make it go away.

Love yourself. Look inrepparttar 101880 mirror as often as you can and say wonderful things about yourself aloud.

Write your way throughrepparttar 101881 feelings.

Connect with other people who understand and can relate: friends, counselors, message boards on websites, etc.

Have a healthy lifestyle: eat well, exercise (at least get some fresh air onrepparttar 101882 beach, atrepparttar 101883 park, etc.).

Nourish your soul with beauty: watch movies, read poetry, go to museums.


Stay alone and appreciaterepparttar 101884 tranquility of your aloneness.

There's no rule for how longrepparttar 101885 pain of a heartbreak will last. It may take weeks, months or even years. But usingrepparttar 101886 following special aromatherapy blend and ritual will soothe your heart, nurture your wounded soul, and envelop you in comfort. I recommend following this bath ritual every night until you feelrepparttar 101887 pain has faded.

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