The Seven Keys to Child Obedience

Written by Anthony Kane

The Seven Keys to Child Obedience

by Anthony Kane, MD

Learning obedience is an important part of child development. This isrepparttar tool that allows you as parents to train your child. Through obedience your child will learn self-control and develop other positive character traits that he will need as an adult. However, obedience cannot be forced uponrepparttar 143217 child. Parents who simply command their children will foster resentment, which will eventually lead to rebellion. In fact, some researchers feel that poor parenting techniques contribute torepparttar 143218 development of oppositional defiant disorder in some children. Although you can punish a child for not obeying, this will not foster any long-term obedience. Whenrepparttar 143219 child reaches his teen years and becomes more independent, punishment will only serve to destroyrepparttar 143220 already faltering parent child relationship.

Our goal then is not to force our children to obey us, but to get them to want to obey us. This willingness to obey will only come about ifrepparttar 143221 parent's commands are based upon seven principles.

1-Loving Concern forrepparttar 143222 Child

A child knows quickly whether a parent's demands are forrepparttar 143223 sake ofrepparttar 143224 child or forrepparttar 143225 personal convenience ofrepparttar 143226 parent. Ifrepparttar 143227 parent's primary motive for giving orders is to make his own life easier, thenrepparttar 143228 child learns to place his own interests first, also. If you want to be successful in raising your child, then your reason for giving orders must be forrepparttar 143229 benefit of your child. When your child senses that your demands are for his sake, he will much more readily obey you. He knows that it is for his own good. He will know that any demands made of him, no matter how unpleasant, come from a genuine concern for his welfare.

2-Sincere Respect forrepparttar 143230 Child

Parents must respect their children. This is a concept that is not well practiced by our society. Western society focuses on possessions. Somehow inrepparttar 143231 back of many parents' minds their children are counted among those possessions. We must remember that our children are not objects, but people. As people, they are deserving of respect. We must remember to give respect to our child torepparttar 143232 same degree we would like others to respect us.


Very often our children do things that bother us. This is usually unintentional on their part and is just a reflection of their immaturity. However, if we show our children that we are annoyed they will begin to resent us. This resentment feeds their desire to rebel against our wishes. One of our goals as parents must be to try to keep our negative emotions in check.

4-Speak Softly

Nothing gains a child's cooperation more than a gentle tone of voice. Speaking softly helps us to control our negative emotions, especially anger. A soft voice soothes and is more likely to be met with cooperation. It creates a relaxed atmosphere and is reassuring to children.

When we speak in a soft voice it also conveys strength. We show our children that we are in control ofrepparttar 143233 situation and not merely reacting to it. Ifrepparttar 143234 only step you take is to controlrepparttar 143235 volume of your voice, particularly in stressful situations, that alone will foster better child compliance. You will find that everything around you goes more smoothly.

Too Much TV For Your Toddler

Written by Cassandra Germsheid

At least one third of households have their TV turned on allrepparttar time. This I can understand. But would you believe one in four children underrepparttar 143216 age of 2 have a TV in their bedroom?

Parents and pediatricians are now questioning how much TV is too much. Is it affecting toddlers' attention spans? Is it causing Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)? New studies are saying that it is a factor. The more TV your toddler watches,repparttar 143217 greater their risk of developing attention difficulties. Too much ofrepparttar 143218 tube is also a factor in childhood obesity.

Here's some more food for thought. If your toddler watches TV all day, when do they have a chance to use their own imagination? Where haverepparttar 143219 days gone when going outside to play wasrepparttar 143220 solution for boredom?

When I was a kid, my grandmother would make me go outside and play. If it was cold outside, I would dress up really warm. You wouldn't dare tell her you were bored, or she would give you chores to do. So, I would stay outside for hours. I had to use my imagination and find ways to cure my boredom. I would make snow forts, slide downrepparttar 143221 hills on a sled and play withrepparttar 143222 animals.

Today, most parents are turning to TV to keep their kids entertained. And why wouldn't they? With shows like Barney, Arthur, and Boohbah, you could easily keep your child glued torepparttar 143223 TV all day long.

Here'srepparttar 143224 kicker. An average 3-year old should be physically active for about an hour a day. But studies have shown that they are only active for 20 minutes. And we wonder why so many kids are becoming obese!

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