The Secret to Instantly Boost Your Self-EsteemWritten by Robert McPhillips
I have read thousands of books, articles and message board posts about self-esteem. And most of them are equivalent of painting a house that is about to collapse.Keep yourself busy. Get out more. Achieve something. Write three good things about yourself. Buy new clothes and take an effort over your appearance. Almost no one takes time to think what problem really is. It doesn’t matter if you have more money than Bill Gates. It doesn’t matter if you have more friends than a Hollywood Casting Director. It doesn’t matter if you look like Brad Pitt or J Lo. It doesn’t matter if you have a book bigger than War and Peace filled with nice things about yourself. They still won’t give you self-esteem. Not kind of lasting self-esteem that you’ll maintain whatever happens. They may make you feel better. They probably will give you more confidence. But confidence is an entirely different thing from self-esteem… although most people don’t seem to realise it. But in your mind there will always be a nagging little doubt. A little voice that creeps up on you. “What if you lose your money… what if you fail next time… what if your friends don’t like you anymore… what if you get it wrong”?
| | Free Will To The RescueWritten by Dave Czach
Today's society and your private world are results of free will. We have arrived here today through intention, ignorance or abuse. Some people understand and use free will daily. Some people completely deny it. And other people simply mock it and complain it "doesn't work."Free will gives you power of choice. You always have a choice. You can choose same behavior or path you usually select. Or you can create a new result. For example, if someone calls you a "loser," do you have a knee-jerk reaction of anger? If so, your behavior was on auto-pilot allowing a pre-programmed, subconscious trigger to surface. Completely bypassing your consciousness. Next time, practice conscious thinking and use your free will to choose your interpretation of event and your subsequent action. Take a second to take a deep breath to help raise your consciousness. Then decide if "loser" statement is valid or not. If invalid, let it roll off your back. Remembering that most negative opinions are simply people's expressions of something they don't like about themselves. If "loser" statement holds some truth - or is dead-on accurate - control your emotions. Don't become angry. Allow trigger to surface. And release trigger.
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