The Secret of Creating Lasting Romance

Written by Michael Skowronski

Ahhh romance… that elusive experience that comes and goes. When we have it we think it will last forever, when we don’t we worry that it will never come again. It is an experience that so many crave yet have had so little of in their lives.

True romance feels good. It should not frighten you. If it does not feel good to you then you are confusing romance with allrepparttar bad things that happens in dysfunctional relationships.

Do you remember how good it feels when you begin falling in love with someone? The intensity of these good feelings come from our connection with our Source, from many spiritual beings, including our own Inner Being, radiating their enthusiasm and excitement that we have found our heart’s desire. This is why they are so powerful.

Good feelings always result from being in alignment withrepparttar 122398 whole of our being and what we have been asking for. If you already have romance in your life, whether it is a new relationship or one that you have had for a while, you are in a very good place. Your dominant vibration is one of great happiness, great joy and great passion.

That means you have an incredible connection with your source. You should understand that this is responsible for many ofrepparttar 122399 other wonderful things that are falling into place in your life right now.

If you don’t have romance in your life, but you want it, then you are going to have to bring yourself to that place. You are going to have to romance yourself. You are going to have to treat yourself wonderfully and give yourself love and nurturing and caring and bring yourself into a place of great joy and passion for life.

Who wants to be around a sourpuss? No one. Who wants to be around someone with misery in their life? Very few people want that. If they do want that in their life, do you want them in yours?

So you have to take care of yourself. Look after yourself. Nurture and love yourself, take yourself out to dinner. Buy yourself wonderful things. Look inrepparttar 122400 mirror and flirt with yourself. Challengerepparttar 122401 negative messages others have given you. Find things within you that contradict those negative messages. You need to feel loveable for someone to want to love you and for you to let it in.

If you are in a relationship now and it does not haverepparttar 122402 romance elements in it that you want or you want more from it, then you arerepparttar 122403 one who is going to have to create that. You are going to have to make yourself more available for that. You are going to have to treat yourself better so that you are in a better feeling place so that you are more attractive to your partner. And if this does not re-kindlerepparttar 122404 fire inrepparttar 122405 heart of your partner it will repel them and attract one that is better suited to who you are now.

Romance is about relationships and getting to know another person. It is aboutrepparttar 122406 discovery of your own beauty throughrepparttar 122407 eyes of an attentive other. Part of what makes it feel good, of what keeps you open to receiving, is your recognition of qualities that you appreciate in this other person. It is your focus onrepparttar 122408 beauty you find in them.

What makes Romance go bad? When does it stop feeling good and start feeling bad? When you discover and focus on things you do not like in this other person. These bad feelings are an indication that you are focused on something that you do not want. They are an indication that you are pinching off your connection with your life giving, energizing, All Knowing and All Seeing Source.

Does pinching off your Source sound like something you want to do? It is not because you or they have done something bad that you are cut off from your Source. It is your focus on what you do not wantrepparttar 122409 cuts you off from your Source.

This article is not intended to address how to deal withrepparttar 122410 dramatically abusive things that happen in some relationships. If you need that kind of help then please seek appropriate counseling. The concepts addressed here will help, but you will also need help understanding how so many ofrepparttar 122411 ideas that you hold about life keep you fromrepparttar 122412 happiness you seek.

Most relationships suffer from a break down in focus way before any ofrepparttar 122413 more serious problems occur. One event at a time each person notices something they don’t like in their partner. Then they focus on it and make it a little bigger.

When you worry about something your partner did or does, and you tell others about how annoying it is, you are focusing your attention on it and you are shifting your vibration so that it matches those same unwanted behaviors. You are actually turning yourself into a magnet for more such experiences.

Not only that but if you are telling others about it you are probably setting up resentments in them towards your partner. So now there are two people holding negative energy towards your partner. Your friend may even begin to distance themselves from you because ofrepparttar 122414 negative energy they perceive that you are making them feel. Can you see how this would affect you? Can you see how this is not romantic energy you will be feeling, or even open to feeling if you are holding such thoughts in your mind? Can you see how this would affect your partner?

Necessary Ingredients to Transformation

Written by Sebastian

Urge for Wholeness, Love of Truth You might think this goes without saying, but many people are content to live withinrepparttar social norms and pursue happiness through acquisition or fame or power etc. In other words, "love ofrepparttar 122397 world". If you find yourself longing for something more, something deeper, something real, then this quality is operative in you and you simply need to honor it. If you do not feel a longing for completion, why are you reading this? This flame of longing for Reality, Truth & Wholeness isrepparttar 122398 field that containsrepparttar 122399 ‘pearl of great value’. Be ready to ‘sell everything else’ to buy it. Allow it to be your guide. Express it through your actions and endeavors. Tired? At some point in your journey you may find yourself saying: "Enough already!" Or, "I need a rest". I think this is to be expected and may be related torepparttar 122400 need to gather more energy (see below). But it could also be complacency or indulgence. Cultivatingrepparttar 122401 Love of Truth orrepparttar 122402 Urge to Wholeness may serve to wake you out of an unconscious indulgent sleepiness. If you find yourself becoming spiritually lazy, using Inquiry & Radical Honesty can help. (see below) Seeingrepparttar 122403 truth about our motivations will ‘set us free’. The less resistance,repparttar 122404 sooner it can work. Basic Trust, Faith, Courage Transformation is change. Genuine Awakening involves changes on all levels of our lives. Weatheringrepparttar 122405 insecurities & turmoil of a constantly changing sense of self and our perception ofrepparttar 122406 world requires some kind of anchor or stabilizing influence. We must find a resource within to get throughrepparttar 122407 storms of emotional turbulence, mental confusion and possibly disconcerting energetic releases. If we lack this quality, what can we do? Boiled down and simplified? Turn Around! Almost every human directs most of their energy towards resisting or avoiding painful feelings or situations and seeking secure or ‘pleasurable’ ones. One thing most haven’t tried is to Stop Resisting! Accept Chaos. Open up to and fully experience negativity and darkness. Onrepparttar 122408 other side of chaos is a new level of peace. To radical?

OK, more compassionately… Are you stuck in a place where you value security and stability? Is it blocking your ability to seek Truth or accept what is Real? You probably need to do some work on healing your wounded child, desensitizing your narcissistic reactivity & neediness. The 'holding environment' you experienced as a very young child has a lot to do with how well you can trustrepparttar 122409 universe to sustain you. All types of Emotional Clearing work can help you gain more trust. You could find a spiritual teacher you can totally trust and allow that person to guide you through periods of turmoil. Using a symbol such as Jesus,repparttar 122410 Holy Spirit or Buddha or a Higher Power can help you get through rough times during contemplation when you are uncovering disturbing aspects of your ego at work. Symbols such as these are repositories for a higher Truth. If we cannot find basic trust in our own being, we can reach out and Trustrepparttar 122411 Symbol that represents this Truth. This can work for certain people who have enough trust to place inrepparttar 122412 symbol inrepparttar 122413 first place. This is how faith works. Using any kind of method or system that involves projection can breed dependence which must also eventually be overcome. If you cannot muster enough trust in a symbolic representation, you can begin to change your perceptions through many types of therapy where you are guided closely by a professional. Energy & Stamina Inrepparttar 122414 'Teachings of Don Juan', Carlos Castaneda’s mentor told him that a warrior's most important task early on isrepparttar 122415 gathering of power (energy). This can be done in many ways on a few different levels. Basically, I see four main categories: 1. Physical (the body). Hatha Yoga is a first rate method. Aerobics can help a lot to increase endorphins. 2. Mental (contemplative). You gain mental energy or power when your conflicting beliefs are resolved. Mindfulness practice reduces chaos. 3. Emotional / Energetic. Emotional clearing (again) Practices like Tai Chi & Reiki etc. harmonize your energy system. 4. Spiritual. Spiritual 'energy' is transformative energy itself. When you rest fully inrepparttar 122416 Ground of Being or Stillness (as in deep meditation)repparttar 122417 process of evolutionary transformation is taken to a new level.

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