Happiness is similar. Everyone wants to be happy, but not everyone knows how to recognize and stay with it; they're always looking for more. The search for happiness is lost when it becomes an insatiable pursuit for getting more.

The difference between two is like difference between savouring and lingering over sweetness and flavour of a mango, and quickly gobbling it up before eating next sweet. The pursuit becomes focus, rather than experience or satisfaction that comes from what we do have.

This endless pursuit for happiness can consume us for all of our lives. We may think that once we have more money, a relationship, or that perfect job we'll be happy, yet when we get there we find it's not what we'd hoped for, or we don't take time to really enjoy it.

There is always something more to be pursued, bought, owned, done, that we rarely enjoy what is in front of us. Even search for spirituality is pursued in this manner. People go from spiritual leader to leader searching for meaning, often going as far as India to find fulfillment.

The pattern is easily recognizable, and we can all fall into it with thoughts like "when I do...own...have...get...go to... I'll be happy", or "if only...would happen." But truth is once whatever is sought after is obtained, we're off looking for next thing. We rarely stop and simply enjoy what is happening right now or fully appreciate what we have.

I do not believe in failure! There is always something good to be found in any learning experience. Besides, if we always succeeded at everything we did, we would not know we succeeded because there would be nothing to measure success against! (But that is not today’s topic!)

Certainly, normal statements along lines of losing weight, quitting smoking, etc. are normally an invitation to be unsuccessful. The reason being that if you could not find power before to achieve this, what would be different about now?

However, here are some ideas for you to consider that could possibly have a huge impact on your life this coming year.

1.Define your Self. Who are you? What do you stand for? What are values that make you whole? Begin this task immediately and put it in writing. Refer to it often. Refine it continually as you discover things about your Self you did not know. Start with following premise, which many of us have. You are not your work, your family or anything else external. You are internal. You are you.