Looking at psychology of impotence is a little like taking a trip down Amazon during wet season. It's a subject fraught with hidden currents, treacherous shallows and wide meanderings.

There is no doubt that Viagra, little blue pill that revolutionized treatment of impotence has had a profound effect on men who have erectile dysfunction. But simply finding a "quick fix" for impotence doesn't overcome other problems that may have been there before treatment began.

Overcoming impotence often gives men unrealistic expectations about their ability to immediately cure their emotional problems as well as their physical ones.

The Psychology of Impotence

Sadly it seems that for a large number of men, their ability to get an erection and have sex is viewed as an integral part of their masculinity and potency. So it's no wonder that onset of impotence, even when triggered by an underlying physical condition, can produce psychological problems that further impact on impotence.

Performance anxiety is a very real issue for most men at one time or another. The fear of not being able to perform adequately, dissatisfaction with penis size, and self-consciousness about body appearance can all lead to very thing that most men wish to avoid - failure to get an erection.

So, when this anxiety is coupled with knowledge there may have been an occasional episode of impotence in past, or when erectile dysfunction has been in existence for a period of time, this anxiety is multiplied. From a strictly physiological viewpoint, anxiety can effectively prevent a man from becoming aroused and getting and maintaining an erection.

And performance anxiety isn't only issue men have to contend with. The highest risk category for onset of impotence is so-called "baby-boomers" - men born in period from 1946 to 1964. Most of these men are in their peak performance years in terms of their job, status, family and financial success. And all these factors lead to an increase in stress levels and anxiety - one more reason for impotence to occur.

Taking a pill may temporarily overcome impotence, but relieving self-doubt and mental stress, which may have been brooding for any number of years, is harder to alleviate. The ability to regain quality of life by restoring sexual function is viewed by some men as a near miracle and by others with fear and trepidation.

It's important to honestly assess how you feel now and compare it to how you felt before impotence treatment began. Easier said than done, but unless negative feelings tied to impotence can be viewed objectively, it's akin to stories people who have gained a great deal of weight often say "I feel like a thin person trapped in a fat person's body". For men it's "I feel like an impotent man trapped in a body that now has full sexual function."

The psychology of impotence is about viewing your new life - with sexual function - as a new beginning, complete with all new emotions that may be experienced. There's no point in trying to "recapture" your life way it was prior to impotence, regardless of whether that was only months ago or many years ago. Time moves on, and trying to live out life way it used to be is a sure-fire bet for failure.

The Psychology of Impotence in a Relationship

Finding an effective treatment to restore erectile function is not a guarantee that you will find an effective treatment for a relationship in need of psychological, physical or emotional repair. And in most situations it's not a "cure" for intimacy, romance or monogamy.

The restoration of erectile function can quickly and unexpectedly alter dynamics of a relationship, particularly when impotence has been a long-term problem. A profound, and often immediate, change in male sexual function is no small matter, and cannot be dealt with in time it takes to swallow a little pill.

Let me tell you something - if you are doing Atkins Diet, you might be doing it WRONG. I have been on diet forums for years, have consulted thousands of people on low carb diets, and I am seeing it again and again. People don't know how to implement a low carb diet. Very often people fail to lose weight or to adapt to low carb life style. Many people give it up after a couple of days because they don't know how to do it right. The Atkins Diet is most famous low carb diet, but it is full of pitfalls just waiting for you to walk into.

Rule #1: Calories DO count. You must count both carbs AND calories

Some of you may believe that losing weight is just a matter of reducing carbohydrates. In fact, many do. Hunting for hidden carbs and totally neglecting calories you eat is setting you up for failure. The only reason that low carb diets work is that they reduce your appetite. You end up eating fewer CALORIES, and lose weight. The problem is that not all people start eating fewer calories after switching to a low carb diet. The only 100% bulletproof method of losing weight is by counting calories. Don't rely on simply reducing carbohydrates. Eat less carbs AND less calories. Count calories! It is much easier to restrict calories when you are on a low carb diet, because you won't feel as hungry as with high-carb diets.

Rule #2: Going straight to 20 grams of carbs per day is a NO-NO

The Atkins Diet has you eating only 20 grams of carbs a day during first two weeks on diet. After that, you are advised to gradually increase number of carbs you eat. I strongly urge you to reverse order of events. Start eating 80 or more grams of carbs per day, count calories and then reduce them more if you want to.

My reasoning for doing so is very simple. During adaptation period you will lack energy because you have taken out carbs, and you need time to make fat burning enzymes to use more fat for fuel. If you suddenly start eating a super low amount of carbs, you will feel totally out of energy, because your body cannot manufacture quickly that many fat burning enzymes. However, when you reduce carbohydrates GRADUALLY, you give your body a chance to adapt to diet without misery of being lethargic.

You can even start by eating 150 grams of carbs a day for first week, and then reduce them to 100 grams for second and so on. You won't be so fatigued, and because you count calories you are losing weight.

You should expect a period of about one to two weeks when you won't have much energy, but this will pass. Don't give up just because you lack energy. This is temporary. If you listen to me and gradually reduce carbs, you will experience a much less-pronounced drop of physical and mental performance.

Rule #3: Calories control your bodyweight, NOT carbohydrates.

If you eat less calories than you burn, you are going to lose weight no matter how many carbs you consume. You don't need to go super low on carbohydrates to experience typical loss of appetite that is so important to be successful at dieting. I eat about 50-80 grams of carbs a day year-round, and I have single digit body fat %. That's because I control both carbs and calories.

You won't be able to eat just 20 grams of carbs for a long time. It is too impractical, hard-to-do and unnecessary. You will do fine eating 80 grams of carbs a day, as long as you count calories.

Rule #4: Don't give up your coffee

Atkins advises that you avoid caffeine and only drink decaffeinated coffee. This is totally unnecessary. If you are used to drinking coffee, just continue to do so. You will have a much easier adaptation period. Coffee makes your body burn more fat, and helps you adapt to fat burning faster. Coffee also suppresses your appetite, and has a mild thermogenic effect (you burn more calories). Last but not least, coffee is very addictive and hard to give up. I know a couple of people who gave up Atkins Diet just because he says to stop drinking coffee! I am telling you - coffee will help your weight loss efforts. It is totally unnecessary to give it up.