The Prodigy as Narcissistic Injury

Written by Sam Vaknin

The prodigy -repparttar precocious "genius" - feels entitled to special treatment. Yet, he rarely gets it. This frustrates him and renders him even more aggressive, driven, and overachieving than he is by nature.

As Horney pointed out,repparttar 143773 child-prodigy is dehumanized and instrumentalized. His parents love him not for what he really is - but for what they wish and imagine him to be:repparttar 143774 fulfilment of their dreams and frustrated wishes. The child becomesrepparttar 143775 vessel of his parents' discontented lives, a tool,repparttar 143776 magic brush with which they can transform their failures into successes, their humiliation into victory, their frustrations into happiness.

The child is taught to ignore reality and to occupyrepparttar 143777 parental fantastic space. Such an unfortunate child feels omnipotent and omniscient, perfect and brilliant, worthy of adoration and entitled to special treatment. The faculties that are honed by constantly brushing against bruising reality - empathy, compassion, a realistic assessment of one's abilities and limitations, realistic expectations of oneself and of others, personal boundaries, team work, social skills, perseverance and goal-orientation, not to mentionrepparttar 143778 ability to postpone gratification and to work hard to achieve it - are all lacking or missing altogether.

The child turned adult sees no reason to invest in his skills and education, convinced that his inherent genius should suffice. He feels entitled for merely being, rather than for actually doing (rather asrepparttar 143779 nobility in days gone by felt entitled not by virtue of its merit but asrepparttar 143780 inevitable, foreordained outcome of its birth right). In other words, he is not meritocratic - but aristocratic. In short: a narcissist is born.

Not all precocious prodigies end up under-accomplished and petulant. Many of them go on to attain great stature in their communities and great standing in their professions. But, even then,repparttar 143781 gap betweenrepparttar 143782 kind of treatment they believe that they deserve andrepparttar 143783 one they are getting is unbridgeable.

This is because narcissistic prodigies often misjudgerepparttar 143784 extent and importance of their accomplishments and, as a result, erroneously consider themselves to be indispensable and worthy of special rights, perks, and privileges. When they find out otherwise, they are devastated and furious.

Moreover, people are envious ofrepparttar 143785 prodigy. The genius serves as a constant reminder to others of their mediocrity, lack of creativity, and mundane existence. Naturally, they try to "bring him down to their level" and "cut him down to size". The gifted person's haughtiness and high-handedness only exacerbate his strained relationships.

In a way, merely by existing,repparttar 143786 prodigy inflicts constant and repeated narcissistic injuries onrepparttar 143787 less endowed andrepparttar 143788 pedestrian. This creates a vicious cycle. People try to hurt and harmrepparttar 143789 overweening and arrogant genius and he becomes defensive, aggressive, and aloof. This renders him even more obnoxious than before and others resent him more deeply and more thoroughly. Hurt and wounded, he retreats into fantasies of grandeur and revenge. Andrepparttar 143790 cycle re-commences.


Mistreating Celebrities - An Interview

Granted to Superinteressante Magazine in Brazil March 2005

Q. Fame and TV shows about celebrities usually have a huge audience. This is understandable: people like to see other successful people. But why people like to see celebrities being humiliated?

A. As far as their fans are concerned, celebrities fulfil two emotional functions: they provide a mythical narrative (a story thatrepparttar 143791 fan can follow and identify with) and they function as blank screens onto whichrepparttar 143792 fans project their dreams, hopes, fears, plans, values, and desires (wish fulfilment). The slightest deviation from these prescribed roles provokes enormous rage and makes us want to punish (humiliate)repparttar 143793 "deviant" celebrities.

But why?

Whenrepparttar 143794 human foibles, vulnerabilities, and frailties of a celebrity are revealed,repparttar 143795 fan feels humiliated, "cheated", hopeless, and "empty". To reassert his self-worth,repparttar 143796 fan must establish his or her moral superiority overrepparttar 143797 erring and "sinful" celebrity. The fan must "teachrepparttar 143798 celebrity a lesson" and showrepparttar 143799 celebrity "who's boss". It is a primitive defense mechanism - narcissistic grandiosity. It putsrepparttar 143800 fan on equal footing withrepparttar 143801 exposed and "naked" celebrity.

Q. This taste for watching a person being humiliated has something to do withrepparttar 143802 attraction to catastrophes and tragedies?

A. There is always a sadistic pleasure and a morbid fascination in vicarious suffering. Being sparedrepparttar 143803 pains and tribulations others go through makesrepparttar 143804 observer feel "chosen", secure, and virtuous. The higher celebrities rise,repparttar 143805 harder they fall. There is something gratifying in hubris defied and punished.

Q. Do you believerepparttar 143806 audience put themselves inrepparttar 143807 place ofrepparttar 143808 reporter (when he asks something embarrassing to a celebrity) and become in some way revenged?

A. The reporter "represents"repparttar 143809 "bloodthirsty" public. Belittling celebrities or watching their comeuppance isrepparttar 143810 modern equivalent ofrepparttar 143811 gladiator rink. Gossip used to fulfilrepparttar 143812 same function and nowrepparttar 143813 mass media broadcast liverepparttar 143814 slaughtering of fallen gods. There is no question of revenge here - just Schadenfreude,repparttar 143815 guilty joy of witnessing your superiors penalized and "cut down to size".

Q. In your country, who arerepparttar 143816 celebrities people love to hate?

A. Israelis like to watch politicians and wealthy businessmen reduced, demeaned, and slighted. In Macedonia, where I live, all famous people, regardless of their vocation, are subject to intense, proactive, and destructive envy. This love-hate relationship with their idols, this ambivalence, is attributed by psychodynamic theories of personal development torepparttar 143817 child's emotions towards his parents. Indeed, we transfer and displace many negative emotions we harbor onto celebrities.

Berenguer Sauniere - "This Place is Terrible":

Written by Robert Bruce Baird


“This Place is Terrible”

By Robert Bruce Baird:


“Let me issue and control a nation’s money and I care not who writesrepparttar laws.” – Mayer Amschel Rothschild.

Bucky Fuller said these most important words in 1981: ‘The U.S.A. is not run by its would-be 'democratic' government. Allrepparttar 143591 latter can do is try to adjust torepparttar 143592 initiatives already taken by [the] great corporations. Nothing can be more pathetic thanrepparttar 143593 role that has been played byrepparttar 143594 President ofrepparttar 143595 United States, whose power is approximately zero. Nevertheless,repparttar 143596 news media and most over-thirty-years-of-age U.S.A. citizens carry on as ifrepparttar 143597 president had supreme power.’

“The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.” - Albert Einstein

"The Lord Buddha has said that we must not believe in a thing said merely because it is said; nor traditions because they have been handed down from antiquity; nor rumors, as such; nor writings by sages, because sages wrote them; nor fancies that we may suspect to have been inspired in us by a Deva (that is, in presumed spiritual inspiration); nor from inferences drawn from some haphazard assumption we may have made; nor because of what seems an analogical necessity; nor onrepparttar 143598 mere authority of our teachers or masters. But we are to believe whenrepparttar 143599 writing, doctrine, or saying is corroborated by our own reason and consciousness. ‘For this,’ says he in concluding, ‘I taught you not to believe merely because you have heard, but when you believed of your consciousness, then to act accordingly and abundantly.’” - Secret Doctrine, Vol. III, page 401. [vii]

“We have it in our power to beginrepparttar 143600 world over again.” -- Paine, Common Sense, 1776.


Is there a more mysterious man in recent history thanrepparttar 143601 priest who built Tour Magdala and spent enough money to terraform sixty planets? The fabulously best-selling book called The Da Vinci Code is justrepparttar 143602 tip ofrepparttar 143603 iceberg. The real issues will be addressed in this book but do not expect to learn all there is about all that must be contemplated if we are to have any idea why Saunière received this money. That takes many more books and some things I am not fully cognizant of. I may know a lot but I do not know everything and inrepparttar 143604 sciences involved in these contemplations (including even Time Travel or Viewing) I doubt there is anyone who knows it all. Despite those caveats I am pretty sure this book will giverepparttar 143605 most comprehensive insight that anyone has done. TABLE OF CONTENTS:

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