The Principles of Success

Written by Craig Lock

What is success? I am not going to try to define success. I think a precise definition is impossible. Is it winning a Gold Medal atrepparttar Olympic Games or winning Wimbledon, or being awarded a Nobel prize? What else? I believe personal success could be anything at all - it does not have to involve public recognition. Who is more success- ful? A millionaire who is unhappy, or an unnoticed person, who has led a simple, sincere and happy life? The simplest definition of success, I think, is 'to set out to do something and to succeed in doing it'. It really doesn't matter what, or how humblerepparttar 124106 undertaking.

The first step onrepparttar 124107 road to success starts with BELIEF. BELIEVE you can succeed and you will. Achieving success in whatever endeavor you choose may berepparttar 124108 goal of life, because it gives you freedom from worry. Could that be?

Success means different things to every one of us. Some people believe it is measured in financial terms, i.e. having wealth; others believe it is helping others rather than helping themselves. A bit of both perhaps?! Or it could be simply achieving for achievement's sake? Success is such a personal thing. To many people, it isrepparttar 124109 very root of their being --repparttar 124110 reason for existing is to achieve something worthwhile in our lives. Torepparttar 124111 vast majority ofrepparttar 124112 popula- tion it doesn't matter much whether they want to be suc- cessful or not; that's OK by me, as long as that is what you really want and you are happy with life.

However, most people want and are motivated to a great extent by public recognition and a relentless pursuit of achievement. How many people too are really happy? How many people are really doing what they want to with their lives? (Incidentally,repparttar 124113 ability to imagine, makes us different from animals).

No matter what motivates you personally...whatever you choose to do with your life, don't expect instant success. The years of struggle, commitment and learning in excelling at whatever endea- vor or trade you choose, is no easy task. I would whole- heartedly agree with that statement after many many years of struggle as an aspiring author. It takes a lot of courage, character and discipline to achieve success in any field. Nearly all successful people have doubted themselves at some point and wanted to give up. Me included! Yet they carried on. So many people give up within an inch or two away fromrepparttar 124114 gold inrepparttar 124115 seam downrepparttar 124116 mine - -a "whisker" away from success.


Written by Craig Lock

I believe that heredity (the genes that you inherit) have some part in forming attitudes. However, most important in shaping them, isrepparttar family environment, especially in your early childhood:repparttar 124105 impressionable years up torepparttar 124106 age of seven. Also critical are your lifetime experiences and events (whether happy or traumatic) in later years. What is happening in your life today, yesterday and all those past years. There are three areas of life in which your attitudes are formed.

1. A sense of BELONGING which is picked up before birth. The "vibes" inrepparttar 124107 womb ofrepparttar 124108 mother (hard to be a father in this process) will determine whether we are really want- ed byrepparttar 124109 mother, and this can determine our degree of security (or insecurity) in later life.

2. Your sense of WORTH will be determined by your im- mediate family in your early childhood. They instil in you an inner sense of well-being and of being loved. The role of mothers and fathers is critical inrepparttar 124110 socialization process forrepparttar 124111 development of your attitudes. Their expectations of you play a big part in your life script.

3. Your sense of COMPETENCE will also originate inrepparttar 124112 family environment. That is why it is very important to praise and encourage children. If they are continually repr- imanded, children will feel that they can't ever do things right. This then develops intorepparttar 124113 child thinking, "I am a person of no worth who is no good at anything." This atti- tude grows over time and can be re-inforced inrepparttar 124114 working environment. Even extremely competent business execu- tives can feel insecure on a personal level and have difficulty in personal relationships.


Golda Meier, an earlier Prime Minister of Israel, was once asked what made Israel such a success againstrepparttar 124115 might ofrepparttar 124116 united Arab armies. Israel, as you most probably know, is a small country set inrepparttar 124117 middle of a desert, with virtually no natural resources and no wealth. Meier replied, "All that my country has isrepparttar 124118 spirit of it's people. Ifrepparttar 124119 people lost their spirit, not evenrepparttar 124120 might ofrepparttar 124121 United States of America could save us." A right attitude through- outrepparttar 124122 country overcame allrepparttar 124123 odds and insurmountable difficulties throughout it's turbulent history.

The top salesman for Bell telephones in America is a quadri- plegic. Although he can only blink his eyes and open his mouth, his attitude and perseverance have made him num- ber one. (Stanford University after doing extensive research, said that all success is 87.5% as a result of your attitudes. Your skills, abilities and knowledge make uprepparttar 124124 other 12.5%).


1. Enlistrepparttar 124125 co-operation of a positive close friend that you can confide in. Share your personal goals and dreams. Ig- norerepparttar 124126 "knockers" who will try to put you down out of jeal- ousy (the "tall poppy syndrome" so prevalent here in New Zealand, but especially Australia). 2. Seek outrepparttar 124127 right people (successful and enthusiastic ones who haverepparttar 124128 right attitude). DON'T NEGLECT YOUR OLD FRIENDS TO GET IDEAS , but remember, your poten- tial has nothing to do with your ultimate performance.

3. Select a model to emulate or follow...who you would like to be like? (Only if you are not happy withrepparttar 124129 way you are.)

4. Learn from your mistakes. Daley Thompson,repparttar 124130 former great British athlete inrepparttar 124131 decathlon said..."I will learn more than any other experience from my failures than my successes." In his goal setting, Thompson was content to grow slowly, be- cause slow growth is more solid, and he did it in small steps.

Look beyond your mistakes and savour successful experiences. Don't feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about your achieve- ments. Make daily affirmations to yourself that you are doing well and are onrepparttar 124132 right track. Reward yourself for minor achievements, or steps onrepparttar 124133 road to your bigger goals. Give yourself credit, no matter how small your achievements, because mental rewards will boost your motivation. All rewards must come from within. This conditioning will cult- ivate a positive attitude in you. (Just like Pavlov's dogs were con- ditioned to salivate through association of ideas.) I remem- ber that from my studies in psychology many many moons ago.

Look forward to positive outcomes and rehearse them in your mind, rather than anticipating failure. Don't repeat bad experiences-our attitude ties us down and limits us, so that mediocrity becomes our destiny.

5. Makerepparttar 124134 most of any situation you find yourself in. Try not to be anxious. Things will work out inrepparttar 124135 end.

6. Avoid self-pity. Resilient people don't feel sorry for them- selves too long. The person who wallows in self-pity or bitter ness spends too much time on introspection and not enough time plotting a comeback.

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