The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language

Written by John Alexander

Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt, George Clooney, orrepparttar CEO where you work--and you’ll notice that they move differently thanrepparttar 140803 rest of us. They give off vibes that they are hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over them.

You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women.

Have you ever noticedrepparttar 140804 way your friends look when they're all nerrvous? They’re looking down atrepparttar 140805 ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out.

And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you.

Now, think about successful guys. They’ve got girls all over them and some great body language going on.

So, what'srepparttar 140806 number one secret between those high status guys andrepparttar 140807 low status guys? You've probably guessed it...repparttar 140808 alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.

Make no mistake about it... relaxation isrepparttar 140809 most important mental state for you to be in.

With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to developrepparttar 140810 mindset and body language of an alpha male (and byrepparttar 140811 way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have evenrepparttar 140812 hottest girls clamoring for your attention):

1. Don’t allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can’t solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.

Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old—but relevant in this case—cliché). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.

But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simplyrepparttar 140813 fear of what might happen inrepparttar 140814 future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!

Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women

Written by John Alexander

Standing atrepparttar magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she hasrepparttar 140802 most gorgeous face you've ever seen. Her hair is silky brown. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. You would be on top ofrepparttar 140803 world if you could pick her this girl up.

You feelrepparttar 140804 fear deep in your gut.

You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say. You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. So you shy away from even approaching her inrepparttar 140805 first place.

Does this situation sound familiar? If so, keep reading.

The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women. I know I certainly do.

But what separates you (and me) fromrepparttar 140806 rest ofrepparttar 140807 guys is...

What You Do About Your Fear.

Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about chicks, but about other things in their life like their career... which is why, unfortunately, most guys will never findrepparttar 140808 success that they want.

First, look at where your fear comes from. The problem is inside of you. It's not withrepparttar 140809 chicks.

If you're thinking about rejection, then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys, your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid).

Try this instead... approach without having any expectations. No goals.

Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. I'm inclined to be an introvert, as I discuss in my book , [insert your affiliate link] "How to Become an Alpha Male."

So to overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, children, people walking dogs, etc.

I would talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to do with picking up chicks.

The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people.

After that, however, I made a mistake. I said to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching people and have become an outgoing person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?"

So then I limitedrepparttar 140810 people I talked to... and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers inrepparttar 140811 first place.

At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi"... and so I would crash and burn. It sucked.

Here's something I want you to try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it just for practice. Don't do it for real.

Because it's just for practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. In general, I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to.

If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, like that you'll talk torepparttar 140812 person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out ofrepparttar 140813 conversation. (Say something like, "Well, I'm on my way to meeting a friend. Good chatting with you." And then walk away without making a big deal of it.)

Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again though, do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind. For example, if a chick passes by you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)

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