The Narcissist and His Friends

Written by Sam Vaknin


"Who'srepparttar fairest of them all?" – asksrepparttar 132257 Bad Queen inrepparttar 132258 fairy tale. Having providedrepparttar 132259 wrong answer,repparttar 132260 mirror is smashed to smithereens. Not a bad allegory for howrepparttar 132261 narcissist treats his "friends".

Literature helps us grasprepparttar 132262 intricate interactions betweenrepparttar 132263 narcissist and members of his social circle.

Both Sherlock Holmes and Hercules Poirot,repparttar 132264 world's most renowned fiction detectives, are quintessential narcissists. Both are also schizoids – they have few friends and are largely confined to their homes, engaged in solitary activities. Both have fatuous, sluggish, and anodyne sidekicks who slavishly cater to their whims and needs and provide them with an adulating gallery – Holmes' Dr. Watson and Poirot's poor Hastings.

Both Holmes and Poirot assiduously avoidrepparttar 132265 "competition" – equally sharp minds who seek their company for a fertilising intellectual exchange among equals. They feel threatened byrepparttar 132266 potential need to admit to ignorance and confess to error. Both gumshoes are self-sufficient and consider themselves peerless.

The Watsons and Hastings of this world providerepparttar 132267 narcissist with an obsequious, unthreatening, audience and withrepparttar 132268 kind of unconditional and unthinking obedience that confirms to him his omnipotence. They are sufficiently vacuous to makerepparttar 132269 narcissist look sharp and omniscient – but not so asinine as to be instantly discernible as such. They arerepparttar 132270 perfect backdrop, never likely to attain centre stage and overshadow their master.

Moreover, both Holmes and Poirot sadistically – and often publicly – taunt and humiliate their Sancho Panzas, explicitly chastising them for being dim-witted. Narcissism and sadism are psychodynamic cousins and both Watson and Hastings are perfect victims of abuse: docile, understanding, malignantly optimistic, self-deluding, and idolising.

Narcissists can't empathise or love and, therefore, have no friends. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing Narcissistic Supply from Narcissistic Supply Sources. He is not interested in people as such. He is incapable of empathising, is a solipsist, and recognises only himself as human. Torepparttar 132271 narcissist, all others are three dimensional cartoons, tools and instruments inrepparttar 132272 tedious and Sisyphean task of generating and consuming Narcissistic Supply.

The narcissist over-values people (when they are judged to be potential sources of such supply), uses them, devalues them (when no longer able to supply him) and discards them nonchalantly. This behaviour pattern tends to alienate and to distance people.

The Irish Issue

Written by Robert Bruce Baird


The expertise and advancement ofrepparttar evolution of man and his culture is evident in one area only - that of propaganda and lying. They have learned how to suck and blow simultaneously out of every orifice of their bodies. Deceit, black ops (e.g. Kennewick Man), 'hiderepparttar 132255 ball' (e.g.repparttar 132256 confusing array of Pyramid explanations) and secret agencies of advanced skill and esoteric expertise in all social structures that allow us to be 'managed'. JFK, Watergate, Iran/Contra or Ritalin,repparttar 132257 program has a repeating plot that is rife with immorality and it’s ever-present greed. The mazerepparttar 132258 Minotaur went through on Crete is reproduced near Glastonbury (or vice versa like Karnac and Carnac) and it is harder to get throughrepparttar 132259 maze these 'social engineers' create or are still trying to create.

There may have been a time whenrepparttar 132260 Romish plotters had a bet with their allies in Britain over who eradicated their assigned enemy first. Most people are aware ofrepparttar 132261 'Flagellants' andrepparttar 132262 Holocaust or Inquisitions againstrepparttar 132263 heretical Jews. There are few who knowrepparttar 132264 Irish were almost successfully eliminated and had disappeared intorepparttar 132265 bogs sorepparttar 132266 English couldn't find them. The Mayans didrepparttar 132267 same thing withrepparttar 132268 Spanish and no doubt lots of others have sought to blend in withrepparttar 132269 environment in order to avoid such persecution by becoming 'conversos' in public. Bede was probably notrepparttar 132270 first (Eusebius and others were re-writing and plagiarizing) English historian to jump all overrepparttar 132271 Irish. Hume was a great historian in this tradition of debauched prejudice too. Here is a letter from him congratulating another conspirator in this continuing plot.

"I see you entertain a great doubt with regard torepparttar 132272 authenticity ofrepparttar 132273 poems of Ossian. You are certainly right in so doing. It is indeed strange that any men of sense could have imagined it possible, that above twenty thousand verses along with numberless historical, could have been preserved by oral tradition {Lies on paper are more easily maintained or referred back to.} during fifty generations, byrepparttar 132274 rudest, perhaps of all European nations,repparttar 132275 most necessitous,repparttar 132276 most turbulent, andrepparttar 132277 most unsettled. Where a supposition is so contrary to common sense, any positive evidence of it ought never to be regarded. Men run with great avidity to give their evidence in favour of what flatters their passions and their national prejudices. You are therefore over and above indulgent to us in speaking ofrepparttar 132278 matter with hesitation." (2)

Yes, ego of men and their need to flatter their national prejudices are a fact of life, and not just with 'verbal tradition'. In many waysrepparttar 132279 ancient egalitarian peoples had less political and social reasons to lie, and they supported equality between all people. The Englishman who wrote this could be one of those arrogant even shockingly self-centered blankity-blanks who think God is his right hand man. The author of this letter was regarded by Edward Gibbon (who wroterepparttar 132280 'Decline and Fall ofrepparttar 132281 Roman Empire') as England's greatest historian. He is David Hume and his intellectual progeny and fallout are directly connected torepparttar 132282 far less but just as influentially prejudicial words ofrepparttar 132283 great Encyclopedia. This letter is a masterwork of insipid prejudice and a deceit of monumental proportions.

We know for a fact that Hume is speakingrepparttar 132284 kind of vile invective that allowed Gibbon's friend Lord Sheffield to benefit so much fromrepparttar 132285 rape of Ireland. Sheffield was a paid off absentee landowner and key political player in Britain's impoverishment of Ireland. This buying of support by giving lands in other nations claimed by 'Divine' or other debatable 'Right' has a long history in European monarchistic management. These authors of hatred and war, prejudice and ignorance, have unclean hands and obvious conflicts of interest. They were calledrepparttar 132286 cause ofrepparttar 132287 Rwandan genocide ofrepparttar 132288 last decade in lock-step and clear order as Number one and two criminals. Number one wasrepparttar 132289 Catholic Church and thenrepparttar 132290 Anglican. They are not separate from their government or secular authority asrepparttar 132291 recent Canadian court awards make evident. The Catholic request for government to make payment with them forrepparttar 132292 billions they owerepparttar 132293 Indians orrepparttar 132294 insurance companiesrepparttar 132295 government works with that are paying up are all part ofrepparttar 132296 menagerie.

Sein Fein wasrepparttar 132297 name of a cultural revival newspaper and society began by Prof. MacManus and others. Now it is a guerilla or terrorist organization. Why dorepparttar 132298 Irish fight amongst themselves and believe in Catholicism (south or Eire) that practicesrepparttar 132299 same usages asrepparttar 132300 English Anglican Church? Why isrepparttar 132301 Protestant North that feigns to abhor those usages engaged in fighting forrepparttar 132302 English? The English gave them their land and brought them there from Scotland, while making trade and taxation deals with them to ensure they remained loyal and prospered. Isrepparttar 132303 church promoting hatred and divisiveness? Sure it isn't engaged in secular matters, what withrepparttar 132304 separation of church and state and all that kind of fiction!

"Naturally, of course,repparttar 132305 first thing that people in power should do, for a country facing starvation, was to forbidrepparttar 132306 export of foodstuff from Ireland. But, as Englishmen, having this source of supply cut off, would then have to pay a higher price for their corn,repparttar 132307 British Government, 'could not interfere withrepparttar 132308 natural course of trade'. 'But'repparttar 132309 Viceroy Lord Heytesbury, reassuredrepparttar 132310 dying ones, 'there is no cause for alarm-the Government is carefully watchingrepparttar 132311 course of events!" (5)

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