The Magic of HearingWritten by Angie Dixon
I’m working on a coach training certification, and one of “proficiencies” I’m expected to have mastered is “engages in provocative conversations.” Now, that really got me thinking. What’s a provocative conversation?Well, word “provocative” means that conversation provokes something—hopefully a reaction from client which helps take them to another level. The ideal response to provocation is for client to realize something they didn’t know or find a solution they didn’t have before call. When I think about what is required to reach that provocation, I see that first thing is not just that I’m listening—I’m always listening. The first thing is that I’m HEARING what client has to say. Because if I’m listening with one ear but thinking about my response with other ear, so to speak, I’m not hearing, and if I’m not hearing, I’m not responding to my client, I’m reacting.
| | Five Minutes Before the MiracleWritten by Angie Dixon
Even though this article was next on my idea list, and I write them in order whether I want to or not, I REALLY didn’t want to write this article. Why not? Because it’s about not giving up five minutes before miracle—and I’m in process of doing just that.I won’t go into a lot of details, but there’s something I really want, that I thought was within my grasp. I found out a few hours ago that after being promised, I’m not going to get it. I’ve wanted it a long time, I’ve spent a lot of time going from web site to web site choosing exactly what I need, and now I’m not getting it. I’m ready to give up. To say, “Okay, I’m not supposed to have it. Can I stop trying now?” The answer is yes, I can stop trying. I can stop trying and I can go without what I really want and I can go on with my life, never knowing if there might be a miracle waiting five minutes from now. I’m in a lot of pain, and I want to just curl up and mourn. But instead I’m writing articles and keeping myself busy and trying NOT to let myself get so down that I do give up. I’m certainly not giving up before I talk to everyone in my life and ask them what they think I should do.
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