1.Choosing obvious ones to avoid: addicts, child abusers, chronic gamblers, felons, “boys”, etc. If you keep falling in love with wrong type of guy, you need help. Please seek it.

2.Choosing by sexual attraction alone. That’s a choice your reptilian brain is making which is to say not a choice at all. “Choosing” implies weighing alternatives and being rational. In no area of your life do you want your reptilian brain in charge. It doesn’t “think.” 3.Choosing by externals alone. It’s nice if he’s handsome, but not if he’s just another pretty face. Are you choosing a 37’ powerboat instead of a man who owns one? His face will change; his toys may disappear. It’s “for better or for worse,” not “for as long as he can buy me Fendi handbags.”

4.Rushing. Date him long enough to go through actual situations that test what you can’t see and touch – his values, priorities, manners, morals, and interests. At first you’ll go to drag races, WFW matches and duck hunting just to be with him, right? Do you really see yourself doing these things every weekend for rest of your life? By same token, is he being nice to your kids just to get to you? Is he willing to go shopping with you and to art museums? Only time will tell.

5.Rushing. Give it time so he can sort out his feelings. Men tend to go from desire to action without thinking in between. This is why we see them make such poor choices in women, and then do it again. You may be sure, but is he?

Approach it with both your brain and your heart. It’s an important decision that will affect rest of your life. Here's LOW EQ way to do it:

1.Choosing obvious ones to avoid: addicts, child abusers, chronic gamblers, felons, “boys”, etc. If you keep falling in love with wrong type of guy, you need help. Please seek it. 2.Choosing by sexual attraction alone. That’s a choice your reptilian brain is making which is to say not a choice at all. “Choosing” implies weighing alternatives and being rational. In no area of your life do you want your reptilian brain in charge. It doesn’t “think.” 3.Choosing by externals alone. It’s nice if he’s handsome, but not if he’s just another pretty face. Are you choosing a 37’ powerboat instead of a man who owns one? His face will change; his toys may disappear. It’s “for better or for worse,” not “for as long as he can buy me Fendi handbags.”

4.Rushing. Date him long enough to go through actual situations that test what you can’t see and touch – his values, priorities, manners, morals, and interests. At first you’ll go to drag races, WFW matches and duck hunting just to be with him, right? Do you really see yourself doing these things every weekend for rest of your life? By same token, is he being nice to your kids just to get to you? Is he willing to go shopping with you and to art museums? Only time will tell.