The Key to a Great Relationship

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach

We all want great relationships but they seem so elusive. What can you to strengthen yours? The key is communication, but try taking it up a notch. Communicate at all levels with your partner – emotional, mental, physical and spiritual.

Make time for communication with your partner, and remember thatrepparttar greatest gift you can give someone else is to listen to them. Here are some tips for listening with love.


This means look at your partner, quiet background noise, and rid your mind of distractions. Don’t be thinking about your day, or thinking about what you’re going to say – next, or ever. Just still your mind, and make it receptive for taking in whatrepparttar 126151 other person has to say.


Ask you partner how they’re feeling, but include all levels – emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. This will help them get in touch with their center, and will also bring you closer to know how they’re feeling in all areas.


In doing this, you will generate interest. It’s not always easy to listen to what your partner has to say. You may have heard this, or another version, many times before. Often we have recurring things at work, for instance, that we need to talk about. Maintain active eye contact, add “uh huh” or “really?” or “oh my” from time-to-time, and try your best to keep still. Fidgeting may not mean you’re not interested, but it may be taken that way.

Learn to express love and concern on your face. It’s very important. This is natural when you look at your baby, for instance. Your heart melts … your eyes soften … you can’t help a big smile. Give this gift to your partner. Show that you love them. It’s inrepparttar 126152 eyes, first and foremost.

It’s also nice to add, “I love you,” or “I enjoy listening to you talk.” These reassurances are loving, and can’t be overused.


It’s better if you can take turns. This will allow your partnerrepparttar 126153 time to talk it out completely, without you feelingrepparttar 126154 pressure to get on to your turn, and your concerns. In a good relationship, you can be sure your turn will come.


This is a Polynesian term for a special kind of communication between two lovers. It meansrepparttar 126155 couple sets aside a special time and one partner just talks and talks until they are through. It can go on for quite a long time. The other person just listens. This is harder than it may sound at first, but you can developrepparttar 126156 habit, and it will greatly enrich your relationship.

Four Proven Techniques On How To Capture Positive Habits:

Written by Catherine Franz

Bad habits, we all have them. They keep us from accomplishing our dreams, make us say and do things that really aren't in our integrity.

Good habits allow us to transition through our day on autopilot. So much so, we forget that our good habits have a bigger strong hold.

Dr. Phil McGraw, TV-psychologist and Oprah offspring, says that we need to, "Behave our way to success." I cringe when I hear this, don't you? It sounds so easy. Yet, we both know it isn't.

Positive psychology,repparttar scientific study of happy, confident people, presents many proven techniques that assist in transitioning bad habits into good habits. Here are four proven techniques:

1. In order to eliminate a bad habit, it must be overridden with a good habit. Not eliminated but replaced. Whenrepparttar 126150 good habit becomes stronger, it naturally takes over and folds into our life. Usually becoming transparent because it melts into our life and we have already uncoveredrepparttar 126151 next one to work on.

It doesn't matter whether you want to replacerepparttar 126152 habit of lateness, cursing, or overeating. The habit's intensity determinesrepparttar 126153 effort and time required to replace. Don't confuse effort with will power--they aren'trepparttar 126154 same.

Effort is making a variety of alternatives untilrepparttar 126155 old habit melts into a new one. The right amount of effort will always be different for you than anyone else. There isn't an exact measurement because each of our unique qualities.

2. Discipline is an exercise of repetition. Not once or twice but until. Until completed.

For instance, writing isn't a natural talent. Yes, research shows that it helps to startrepparttar 126156 process young. Yet, there are female Pulitzer Prize winners who began writing in their fifties -- after family obligations. They replaced their family responsibilities withrepparttar 126157 discipline needed to be a successful writer. They disciplined their way to success.

Most people think positive thinkers naturally flow with confidence. Yet, positive psychology statistics dispel this myth. What's different isrepparttar 126158 amount of time and space they allow when negative habits or messages appear. They appear incandescent to them.

3. Rewards. As managing partner of a CPA firm for 15 years, I thought rewards meant bonuses and paid massages. After attending Coach University and intensifying my study inrepparttar 126159 Laws of Attraction, my perspective shifted. Positive people don't need an outside push; they seemingly have a natural internal push that continually pulls them forward. Sometimes labeled as determination or drive.

When Donald Trump appeared onrepparttar 126160 Oprah show in April, Oprah asked him, "I heard very successful people don't even see negative." Donald chewed on this for a few long television minutes and then responded, "Yes, that is why I hire others who can see what I can't.... Negative isn't on my radar screen."

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