The Key To Self LiberationWritten by Christiane Beerlandt
HEALTH Good in Your Skin Invited by Albertville Health Group, Christiane Beerlandt came from Ostend to explain at length psychological and emotional origins of most important diseases and symptoms that can strike us. She underlined deeper meaning of earthly life and, especially, our self-healing powers. One has never seen an elephant swinging by a frail liana, no more than a monkey dragging a heavy load! This image could summarize — a little irreverently, however — words of Christiane Beerlandt. She wrote several books in field of psychology, health, nutrition, philosophy, and wellness. “Not going against nature, being and staying yourself, stout or thin, always good in your skin.” Last Tuesday evening, at “Val des Roses” Theater, Christiane Beerlandt spoke in her mother tongue, Dutch. Her words were faithfully translated by her husband, Dr. Dirk Lippens. Christiane Beerlandt is endowed with an extraordinary talent enabling her to consciously draw information from her deep source of wisdom. This is case, among others, in one of her books, entitled “The Key to Self-Liberation — 1000 Diseases and their Psychological Origins,” which has become a standard reference work for laymen as well as for doctors. She does not base herself on any existing work or on external observation of diseases or sick persons. “Happenings, phenomena, or diseases that occur in our lives don’t come up abruptly. They don’t happen by coincidence, they are not sent to us by some power or some god.” We have to look for causes in ourselves. We attract everything ourselves, energetically. Every happening or phenomenon in our lives is expression of something taking place on an underlying level: in our psyches, in our emotional lives, in realm of our convictions and expectations. In this way, human being creates his own life and happenings in his life, good or bad. All this mostly takes place on an unconscious level; this explains fact that most people say it “just” happens to them time and again. “In fact, we are not aware that everything is linked energetically, that human being constantly creates his own reality in accordance with his expectations and psychological state. Therefore, we can look in ourselves to find deeper causes of certain unpleasant things that happen to us, and undertake to solve them.” The Cult of Slenderness: Utterly Absurd! Fatalism will only play a role in our lives as long as we believe in it. According to speaker, illnesses are like signals: “Always ask yourself ‘why,’ and then make necessary adjustments on your path.” However, it’s author’s opinion that there aren’t any specific techniques required to do this.
Dump Those Negative TapesWritten by Virginia Bola, PsyD
Every time something doesn't go quite right (rather frequently for some of us), we start berating ourselves. We can be soul of courtesy and forgiveness to those we care about and then turn and savage ourselves in most brutal fashion. How many times have you told yourself: "I'm an absolute idiot!" What was I thinking?" And that is just start.
From those immediate negative self-assessments, we dive deeper, reinforced by old admonitions playing in our brain. We may be adults, our parents and teachers perhaps long deceased, but their deprecating, wounding, critical, even, at times, cruel or abusive, remarks play over and over as if we were still children, being scolded for "our own good."
With help of those judgmental tapes playing repetitively in back of our minds, we easily move from annoyance at a simple mistake anyone could have made to a global view of our own ineptitude: "I always blow it . . . I can't do anything right . . . Why am I such a failure?"
Why is it so much harder to forgive ourselves than to forgive those we love? Is it because we don't love ourselves as much? Is it because we expect more of ourselves? Or is it that we know ourselves too well, painfully aware of our dark secret places and our internal shortcomings? We are hard on ourselves because we have a deep, subconscious, lifelong belief that we don't quite measure up.
The maggot gnawing away at our core is made up of a long string of events starting when we first became aware of world and began to hear word "No!" It continued through a childhood of making mistake after mistake, as we all do when learning new skills, and through adulthood as we are judged by our bosses, our spouses, our customers, with heaviest emotional jolt of being laid off, ultimate rejection of our self-worth.
Psychologists have studied authority-child interactions in both home and in school. Remarkably, feedback to child, in both environments, is more than 70% negative with remainder either neutral or positive. Is it any wonder that we grow up to view ourselves as not quite good enough, mess-ups, or even total failures?
We have internalized all of that destructive feedback and face world with pride and self-composure that we know is only a defensive façade, constantly in peril of crumbling away.