The Goldilocks PrincipleWritten by Louise Morganti Kaelin
Do you remember story of Goldilocks and 3 Bears? It's quite a simple story and as an adult only takes minutes to read. What most of us do remember is repeated theme of 'too hot, too cold, just right', 'too hard, too soft, just right'. But how did Goldilocks know which was which? That's question that comes up for me. How did she know which was 'just right' for her? There wasn't a lot of thought involved.. she 'just' knew. And that's message for all of us: we all 'just' know what's 'just right' for us, where our personal balance lies. It's simply (though not necessarily easily!) just a matter of trusting ourselves. We go through life and hear different messages, depending on day, time, country, mood, whatever. Indeed, we give different messages - to same people - on different days! 'You can't get anywhere without a plan'. 'Stop planning and start doing.' 'Don't trust everyone you meet.' 'You can't get anywhere without trusting.' 'Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.' 'You have to start showing emotion.' The messages may seem inconsistent, but they are (almost) always appropriate for where we are in moment. And that's key to not getting stuck in mire of mixed messages. What's going on right now? Is it too much? Is it too little? Listen within for answer. It's there --- and you can trust it. I call it 'Goldilocks Principle' and it's a great tool to use. What is 'just right' for me, right now?
| | Thanksgiving (with Emotional Intelligence) HaikuWritten by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach™
Celebrate your Thanksgiving with EQ and INTENTIONALITY Thanksgiving comes soon Review your basic EQ Intend to enjoy. POSITIVE OUTLOOK Holiday at Bill’s I miss my own great stuffing I focus elsewhere. OPTIMISM Christmas will soon come I have way too much to do Optimistic, I. SELF-SOOTHING Thanksgiving at Mom's My sisters will fight again I will breathe deeply. FLEXIBILITY Dinner at Kayla's What's this, we're having a quiche?? I am flexible. COMPASSION Feast at bride's house Lumpy gravy, burned turkey Compassionate time. RESILIENCE Thanksgiving, no Chet Resilient I have become For this I give thanks. HIJACKING First meal for my boss Will my fear hijack me now? Not with my EQ. INTUITION The host is yawning My intuition tells me Time to go on home.
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