The Girl Next DoorWritten by Steve Eyes
When you think about girl next door, usually it brings pleasant thoughts. She is a lady we have seen around, exchanged greetings and smiles – walked away feeling good. The part about feeling good has a lot to do with calm atmosphere and casual meeting. There was no crowd, no expectations of trying to be picked up, and you were not concerned about being rejected. Instead, it was you and a lady exchanging some small talk with no pressure or competition. Over time as you get to know each other conversation may get a little more personal and you may decide to get together for dinner or drinks. It seems to come natural.
In a club, atmosphere is completely different. There is competition and much more intensity in air. The women don’t know who you are and if they seen you around, they can only judge you by your actions – which may be effected by alcohol. When you do walk up to one of these ladies in a club, right away you are inviting her to go out, have a drink, etc., without her really knowing who you are. No wonder this type of atmosphere is ripe with rejection. Granted a lady may get to know you in a club over time, but there always seems to be another guy around corner trying to take your place. Probably this competition is reason for hurried invite for a personal connection. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. But I bet, must guys have had more then their share of rejections in a club and really don’t care for feeling.
Meeting a girl online is similar to girl next door concept. She may not be next door, but atmosphere of little pressure, casual conversation and getting to know each other by online exchange (email, online chatting, etc.), make it a more pleasant feeling. In time, this exchange may blossom into more then friendship. If sparks connect, you will find yourself in love with girl next door though she may be miles even oceans away.
A lady in a bar who doesn’t know who you are, may say no for that reason alone. She may get to know you in time, but more then likely you have asked her out before she got chance to know who you are. After a guy has been rejected, more then likely he won’t return to scene of accident. You may tell yourself you will let lady get to know you before making any advances, which is not a bad idea, but by time she gets to know you, three other guys have asked her out. The girl next door concept in a bar could work, but competition and odds are stacked against you.
Ancient philosophers’ thoughts found on the Internet can effect the way we think about the Internet itself, as well as other ‘bigger’ things…Written by Jesse S. Somer
Here I am again sitting at my computer, my job is to write about positive aspects of Internet. I’d like to think of myself as a bit of a novice philosopher as well as writer. The other day in poetry class at university my lecturer mentioned a quote from a guy who I had already read and enjoyed, Baruch/Benedictus Spinoza. The quote mentioned was quite a simple one, and in my opinion simplicity is best form of communication (and everything else for that matter). Spinoza once said, “Reality is perfection.” I feel this idea is quite a powerful one indeed, in relation to all aspects of life, including Internet.
Where do you go these days when you want to find out about anything? Church? School? Parents? No, you go to Internet. The Internet is collective pool of unconscious, sub consciousness, and conscious ideas, beliefs, knowledge and wisdom of humanity from past to present. There has never been such a tool available for us. Of course there is a perfectly imperfect amount of crap out there to sift through as well, but that is intrinsic in this perfectly balanced reality that has always existed.
So, if reality has always been perfect, why is existence of Internet anything special? The truth is, it is only as special as anything else in life. Now, you have to ask yourself, “Is life special?” I think you know answer to that one…then again there’s that perfect paradoxical balance. Why Internet then? Well, my younger brother once said, and I don’t know where he pulled this little tidbit of wisdom, “The only constant in Universe is that everything is in constant transition.” The Internet exists because of a natural progression in human thinking; it’s an evolution of our collective minds. It is a constructed idea formed through process of eternal change.
Human beings have a huge history spanning at least half a million years. As well as magic feeling of love there has always been balancing emotion of fear. It seems that over time societies go through different stages where one of these feelings dominates and then permeates general actions by community. At moment many people would find it hard to disagree with fact that we are in a period of fear. With war, hatred and segregation prevalent in reality as well as ‘reality’ presented by media news and TV/film, fear is reigning supreme in many of our daily interactions.