He's your good friend. She's your best confidant. You have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. You have confided to each other about your latest love interest and turned to one another for support when relationship(s) failed. You can't imagine life without your good friend.

But for a while....

You've felt jealous of his dates. You've been overprotective of her since she has been seeing jerk. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more? If so, your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush".

You don't know what to do. You know you want to continue spending time together- more time. But it's getting hard. You fantasize about having more with this person and are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner. Do you pretend everything is same? Do you start distancing yourself- hoping your feelings will go back to way they were? Do you actually TALK directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel?

What will happen to relationship if you make WRONG choice?

Just as all people are unique, so are characteristics of their relationships with others. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this increasingly common dilemma. So, let's take a look at your options. You can:

* ignore your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is status quo

In order to choose this option, you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on sidelines while someone else has relationship with this person that you desire. You will most likely be asked what you think of this or that person and be expected to be happy and supportive of your friend when they meet right someone for them. In return for all this, you will still have your friend.

* begin to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen

NO THEY DON'T! At least not to use for whatever you want. However, if you want to use grant money for something that government is interested in funding, and you file a grant application that gets approved, then things can get interesting.

Let's take a closer look:

The government has loads of grant programs that they offer. In fact, at last count, there were 1569 of them. That's 1569 possibilities that someone in U.S. government is going to be willing to give you some free money. The only issue is: Which government grant(s) do you qualify for, and how do you find out?

Broadly speaking, there are 15 major grant categories. They are:

(A) Formula Grants Allocations of money to States or their subdivisions in accordance with distribution formulas prescribed by law or administrative regulation, for activities of a continuing nature not confined to a specific project.

(B) Project Grants The funding, for fixed or known periods, of specific projects. Project grants can include fellowships, scholarships, research grants, training grants, traineeships, experimental and demonstration grants, evaluation grants, planning grants, technical assistance grants, survey grants, and construction grants.

(C) Direct Payments for Specified Use Financial assistance from Federal government provided directly to individuals, private firms, and other private institutions to encourage or subsidize a particular activity by conditioning receipt of assistance on a particular performance by recipient. This does not include solicited contracts for procurement of goods and services for Federal government.

(D) Direct Payments with Unrestricted Use Financial assistance from Federal government provided directly to beneficiaries who satisfy Federal eligibility requirements with no restrictions being imposed on recipient as to how money is spent. Included are payments under retirement, pension, and compensatory programs.

(E) Direct Loans Financial assistance provided through lending of Federal monies for a specific period of time, with a reasonable expectation of repayment. Such loans may or may not require payment of interest.

(F) Guaranteed/Insured Loans Programs in which Federal government makes an arrangement to identify a lender against part or all of any defaults by those responsible for repayment of loans.

(G) Insurance Financial assistance provided to assure reimbursement for losses sustained under specified conditions. Coverage may be provided directly by Federal government or through private carriers and may or may not involve payment of premiums.