The Four Laws Of Leadership (part Two)

Written by Brent Filson


Summary: The best leadership is motivational. Butrepparttar author contends that most leaders misunderstand motivation. Here are four laws of motivation that will help you be a better motivational leader. In this second of two parts,repparttar 122644 author expands onrepparttar 122645 laws he described in Part One.

In Part One, I describedrepparttar 122646 laws of motivation. In Part Two, I'll examinerepparttar 122647 laws in more detail.

Law 1. Motivation is physical action. Motivation isn't about what people think or feel but about what they physically do. In leadership, you should understandrepparttar 122648 difference between inspiration and motivation.

The word "inspiration" comes fromrepparttar 122649 ancient Greeks andrepparttar 122650 oracle of Delphi. The oracle would sit in front of a fissure inrepparttar 122651 earth and breath in (inspire) earth vapors and in a half-drugged state, make her pronouncements. For instance, when she toldrepparttar 122652 Greeks only a "wall of wood" would save them from being annihilated byrepparttar 122653 Persians, it wasrepparttar 122654 Greeks themselves who had to take action and build up a great navy that ultimately defeatedrepparttar 122655 Persians atrepparttar 122656 Battle of Salamis.

Motivation, onrepparttar 122657 other hand, comes from a complex of words beginning with "mo." Motion, motor, momentum, etc. all denote physical action.

Getting people to not simply be inspired but motivated to take physical action may seem like a simple, even simplistic, approach to leadership. However, once you begin to see your leadership interactions in terms of physical action, you'll see your leadership, andrepparttar 122658 way you get results, in fresh ways.

For instance, in my seminars, participants develop Action Plans designed to achieve measurable and continual results back onrepparttar 122659 job. I have them challengerepparttar 122660 cause leaders they enlist to take physical action by asking them, "What three or four leadership actions, PHYSICAL ACTIONS, will you take to achieverepparttar 122661 results we need?" The difference between people simply saying they will execute their part ofrepparttar 122662 Plan and their committing to specific physical actions leads to a significant difference in results.

Remember, people who simply take some action are useless torepparttar 122663 organization. The useful ones are those who take action for results. Forrepparttar 122664 end of all action in an organization is results. Therefore,repparttar 122665 best action is freely chosen action directed toward specific results.

Law 2. Motivation is their choice. When you face a particularly tough challenge, avoid meeting that challenge by ordering people; instead, have people makerepparttar 122666 choices to meetrepparttar 122667 challenges.

An effective way to have them makerepparttar 122668 right choices is to ask them questions.

Here is a tip that you can start using immediately to become a more effective leader. Put question marks, not periods, atrepparttar 122669 end of your sentences. That's one ofrepparttar 122670 best ways of developing an environment in which people are makingrepparttar 122671 choices for results.

Some ofrepparttar 122672 most powerful questions a leader can ask are: "What is our challenge here? Why is it worth tackling? How do we feel about it? Do we haverepparttar 122673 facts we need? Are we askingrepparttar 122674 right questions? What results are we really seeking? What'srepparttar 122675 worse thing that can happen? Why are we having this problem? Can you explain that further? What if we do nothing? Have we explored creative approaches? What do you propose? And what can I do to help?"

Coping with Grief - It's Called Living Through It

Written by Gail H. Stone


"Dad, I tried to wake Nana, I think she's dead." "Grandpa died yesterday." "Oh my God, Daddy's dead." "Uncle Jack died today." "Grandma died last night." "I'm standing withrepparttar body of your deceased father-in-law." "Hon, I think we should get a divorce." "I'm sorry, but we weren't able to resuscitate your mother." "Mike called. He thinks Mary is dead." "I'm sorry to leave this on your voice mail, but Uncle Andy died last night."

This litany of phone calls and conversations on death or parting has all occurred inrepparttar 122643 past 30 years of my life, most inrepparttar 122644 last 20. Whether I wasrepparttar 122645 one delivering or receiving these messages,repparttar 122646 speaking of each one wasrepparttar 122647 start ofrepparttar 122648 long, seemingly endless process of grieving. Often, I felt so sucker punched that I doubted I could go on. Getting uprepparttar 122649 next day seemed impossible, yet somehow I almost always did.

Something deep inside told me I had to, that there was no other way to get through it, but to keep moving. I attribute that to my deep belief in a higher plan and a sense that getting through this trial was like going through a tunnel. I told myself that if I put one foot in front ofrepparttar 122650 other, I would eventually come outrepparttar 122651 other side and be able to feel somewhat whole again. Sometimes, it was all I could do to put one toe in front ofrepparttar 122652 other, but all forward movement I deemed positive.

The last five instances happened withinrepparttar 122653 past five years, with my mother and sister-in-law and godfather's deaths back to back in '99, '00 and '01. Looking forrepparttar 122654 reason why I have been given so many opportunities to experiencerepparttar 122655 grip of grief first hand, I now believe it was in order to help others and ease their way.

If you've been here, you know. There's no magic pill to get you throughrepparttar 122656 immense pain, intense sadness and amazing denial, anger and upset that you feel. However, I did create, through trial and error, a few simple practices which have profoundly impacted my journey throughrepparttar 122657 tunnel and I would like to share them with you.

(1) Every single day, let inrepparttar 122658 love of family, friends and co-workers. On those days that you feel you can't bear to see anyone or when you realize that some of them have moved on, thinking in error that you are "better", read throughrepparttar 122659 cards you've received. Save and then play voice mail messages and re-read e-mails of support. Give your heart a visible reminder that others do care and want to share your pain. Let them - mentally off-load a bit of it onto their shoulders. Don't try to carry it all by yourself. It can crush you and it will try. Don't let it!

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