The First Step to Real Success Written by Wendy Hearn
Do you want to have success? Do you want to feel a successful person? Success is what many people are striving for. Success is deemed to be ultimate goal to strive towards. That's fine to a degree, because we all need to head towards something worthwhile. However, one of problems I've noticed is that, although many people say they want success, they can't define it clearly. Their definition of success is vague.
People tend to measure success in material possessions or monetary terms. Typically by statements like, "When I'm a millionaire I'll feel successful" or "When I have a top of range luxury car I'll know I've reached success." Success is often put on a pedestal, at a distance. All too often, before these goals are reached, they're extended. It's almost as if closer they get to success, further away they move goal posts.
When we define success, we often compare ourselves to others. It's too easy to look at another person's perceived success and think if we had that as well, we would be successful. We strive for possessions others have in order to experience success. If we don't get them, we feel a failure. Or we get these material possessions and then discover that having them isn't all it's cracked up to be, so we still don't necessarily feel successful. When you compare yourself to others you're likely to be left feeling a failure. When your idea of success comes down to money or material possessions, you often wake up and realise there's something missing in your life. Success is about much more than that.
I'm not suggesting you forget monetary aspect of success, because this is certainly a part of it. But it is only a part. True success encompasses all areas of your life and when you measure all of them, your success will be more balanced. The different areas of your life to consider are: Physical environment Health Friends/Family Work Partner/Relationship Fun/Recreation Personal Development Finances.
Your Glass Is Half Full!Written by Liz Wertman
When most people are confronted with a change in their lives that they didn't want, such as death or divorce, negative feelings start setting in. These people start looking at everything in their lives with a "glass half empty" attitude. Are you doing that? Are you looking at every aspect in your life with a critical eye? Are you finding that you are dissatisfied with everything in your life? Are you wondering why you don't have more? Do you look around you and only see everything you don't have?
We all want more. We want more for us, more for our children. We see best on rich and famous and we want that for ourselves. Realistically we all know that it isn't possible. Yet we are still hoping, buying lottery tickets by millions. Some how we equate money with happiness. When we see those rich and famous people with their big white smiles.... they sure do look happy!
Of coarse money can't hurt! We should always try to improve ourselves, our lives in every way, personally and monetarily. But these things don't happen overnight, it takes time to build and rebuild. In meantime you must be happy with your life way it is now. You must look at your life and say, "If this is all there is, I am happy, I am content."
By always looking at what you don't have, you are living a dissatisfied life. You can continue to live your life this way but you won't have a happy or content life. You will always be saying, " When I get this I'll be happy." Most people with this attitude are still unhappy when they get what they want. They are still dissatisfied. This current achievement doesn’t mean anything to them anymore. They have already seen something else they want and they are striving for that.