My friend’s mom used to sprinkle small leaves and pour plant baskets around apartment to bless life of her family. Today, I’ve also seen beautiful herbal blessing bottles for those of you who would decide to buy all ready made rather than do it by your own. Some of them have a tag explaining any of following intentions: Devotion, everlasting love, appreciation, or joy and happiness. My friend keeps up with tradition of recreating free-spirited and green nature inside four blocks of her walls. For her, as for many women, it expresses one’s spiritual visions and feelings, and it is also a wonderful reminder of one's dreams.

More than looking and smelling at flowers and plants, try to connect your spiritual self with them. They have life, although very short, but very powerful. In case that you are ignorant of their existence, I am placing some plants and flowers names related with love, because as a popular saying goes, “love is all we need!”. So spreadit!

Aloe: Helps bring you a new lover.

Asphodel: Attracts new love.

Balm of Gilead: Good for new love when placed in red wine.

Beth Root: Brings money, love, and luck.

Betony Wood: Good for advances, purification, protection, love.

Blood Root: Love, protection, and purification.

Caraway: Passion.

Catnip: Cat magic, love, beauty, and happiness.

Cayenne: Fidelity, hex breaking, and love.

Yes, I am forty something, forty-four to be exact and loving it. There will be no botox injections, implants or liposuction for me. I will be just fine with what God gave me, enhanced by living and eating right, with a little exercise on side. That is not to say that I won’t make a pit stop at Baskin Robbins or frozen food section at grocery store to take Mrs. Pillsbury and her chocolate chip, slice and bake cookies home every now and then. Or that I won’t arrange an occasional sleep over with my favorite beau, or more accurately put, my only beau. (My daughters may be reading.)

What I have learned in my pre-menopausal years is moderation, moderation, everything in moderation. Of course, some things should not be done at all. For example eating a half a gallon of ice cream in one feeding, or lusting after 22 year-old cable guy, but that’s a whole other article.