Copyright 2005 Song Chengxiang

When we were young, we had many dreams, we never thought anything was impossible, we were not afraid to dream anything.

However, when we grew up, we slowly began to lose our dreams, we started to accept "REALITY". We began to accept constraints and limitations of this world. We know that there are certain things we can not do, and there are certain things we can't achieve.

Did you really think about where these thoughts of impossibility came from? Who told you "You Can" or "You Can't"?

I think you know answer, nobody told you, you told yourself. It is little voice inside you who said constantly to you that you can't do something, and you always believe what it says.

This little voice is your ego, it's meant to protect you from dangers. However its only reference point is your past, it makes every judgment by referring to your past experiences. Therefore, everything it told you is based on your past experiences, not reality.

Instead of letting your ego control you, you should learn to control your ego by knowing that what your ego tells you is not reality.

and ... **The reality is "There is no reality"**

Scientists no longer claim that they know reality. In fact, this world is an unpredictable world. We were told in high school that electrons circle around nucleus in an certain orbit, we were also told that they can jump from one orbit to another when it releases energy. However, what we were not told is when these changes happens. The fact is nobody knows.

For one moment, an electron is in orbit A, for next moment, it will be in orbit B. The electron does not travel space between these two orbits, changes happen spontaneously. This is sometimes called quantum leaps. However scientists do not know when and where a quantum leap will occur. Put it into other words, we don't know where an electron is located at any given moment of time. How can we claim to know reality.

Since there is no reality, then...

**What we see is only our perception**

Since we were young, many things we were told to be true are not true at all, many things we thought were reality, are not reality at all, and many things we were told impossible are not really impossible.

I remember first time I went to Anthony Robbins's seminar. I heard of this thing called breakthrough. I heard it's about turning impossible into possible. I also wanted to experience a breakthrough. Then I decided to go for Anthony Robbins's famous "Fire Walk". I heard a lot about fire walk before I went to seminar. I thought there were some tricks, and maybe "Fire Walk" is just a metaphor, it is not real fire. But when I went to seminar, I realized there was no trick here. I had to walk on real fire. "How could this be possible?" , "Isn't that crazy to walk on hundreds of degrees of fire without wearing anything on your feet?

Life, no matter how we choose to look at it, is a challenge. It is beginning of a struggle that continues until we breathe our last breath. Life is something that we did not request. None of us asked to be born. Neither did we ask to be poor, or Black, tall or short. We did not ask to be a part of one family as opposed to another. Life is full of risks. There is a certain element of risk taking that is inherent in every venture we undertake; whether it is in business, or in marriage, in a profession or in athletics. We never have complete security within ourselves. For we know that every moment we live, our lives are in constant danger. A stray bullet may hit us, a car emerging out of nowhere may crush us, and a slip of foot may result in our death. So life is unpredictable. We get no warning, we are afforded no red alert, and we get no second chance at life.

And we might as well face fact that our life is a dying life. As soon as we are born, we begin to die and every day we manage to somehow survive, we have only gained another step towards our grave. Each morning when we wake up from a refreshing sleep, we have died a little during night. As we go through streets of city, we are dying a little. As we go about our business on job, we are dying a little. In essence, we are living in land of dying.

It will help you to accept life on its own terms rather than struggle against it. Identify and move from limiting and conflicting, "either/or," "black or white," "all or nothing", illusory perception of life to an attitude that is open to all aspects of reality. We do this by accepting life on its own terms - accepting that pleasure and pain, happiness and unhappiness are all a natural part of human experience.

Fighting against life's realities and adopting a stance of negativism only create unnecessary pain and difficulty in your life. Accepting life allows you to understand your frustrations, grow from them and experience life's abundance. You have heard people who make comments such as "I go with flow." What they are saying is this: I accept in life what I cannot change. I deal with it as it comes within framework of my own knowledge and capabilities and spirit. When inner negatives are dissolved, our outer life will be more harmonious and fulfilled.

Understanding life helps you make unconscious conscious; to see your misguided beliefs and negativity clearly, to understand their roots and causes, and most importantly - to transform them. A complete path, it offers a practical, rational, honest, and above all, gentle and self-accepting way to move from an attitude of you versus world to one of you and world; from you versus life to you and life.