The Eternal Lure Of Gambling

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD

I just spent three days inrepparttar land of milk and money -Las Vegas. There is something refreshingly honest aboutrepparttar 141171 place: it's all about money and it knows it. It doesn't pretend to be anything else.

No doubt some ofrepparttar 141172 architects think that their work has some importance of its own:repparttar 141173 recreations of Venice, Camelot, Paris, Egypt, and New York. Battling pirate ships and erupting volcanoes aside, once you enterrepparttar 141174 themed palaces, they are allrepparttar 141175 same: crap tables, blackjack tables, roulette wheels, and thousands upon thousands of slot machines - all promising to give you a fun time while you lose your money inrepparttar 141176 pursuit of a possible fortune.

The lure of gambling has existed throughout recorded history but has never grippedrepparttar 141177 millions who now participate. We play state-sponsored lotteries, visit tribal and other legal casinos, create special accounts for Internet gaming, betrepparttar 141178 horses, betrepparttar 141179 dogs, bet on sports, fights, anything where we can catchrepparttar 141180 excitement of beatingrepparttar 141181 odds.

Moralists worry that a large percentage of those who risk their money, are those who cannot afford to risk anything:repparttar 141182 poor,repparttar 141183 unemployed,repparttar 141184 minimum wage fringe who, atrepparttar 141185 best of times, barely hang on torepparttar 141186 basement rung ofrepparttar 141187 economic ladder. They argue that gambling should be a pleasant pursuit for those who can afford to lose a reasonable amount, usingrepparttar 141188 money they have earned for purchasing excitement, entertainment, and momentary escape.

Who's kidding who?

Forrepparttar 141189 middle class gamblers who bet onrepparttar 141190 super bowl,repparttar 141191 derby,repparttar 141192 occasional lottery ticket, or visitrepparttar 141193 casinos once or twice a year, gambling is a diversion, a fun time, a little bit of excitement sandwiched betweenrepparttar 141194 realities of career advancement, building a nest egg, raising children, and doing their civic duties. The thrill of a potential win isrepparttar 141195 lure of proving their ability to compete, to come out on top, to better their opponents,repparttar 141196 pros,repparttar 141197 odds,repparttar 141198 morning line. It is a personal challenge that can boost their self-confidence when they win but has few negative effects when they lose because their real self-image relates torepparttar 141199 important aspects of their lives, separate from their gaming ventures.

It is those who cannot afford to lose who become addicted torepparttar 141200 lure of chance. Stuck in minimum wage employment, withoutrepparttar 141201 education,repparttar 141202 skills, orrepparttar 141203 entrepreneurial savvy to work their way uprepparttar 141204 social and economic pyramid, they see gambling asrepparttar 141205 promise of a permanent way out, a tsunami that can sweep them instantaneously torepparttar 141206 top, an overnight millionaire. A lottery ticket, a slot machine, a pick 6 wager, plays no favorites. The poor,repparttar 141207 homeless,repparttar 141208 forgotten,repparttar 141209 have-nots, all compete withrepparttar 141210 rich and famous on an equal footing. They become hooked on continued gaming because it isrepparttar 141211 only chance of reachingrepparttar 141212 lifestyle they want to achieve.

How To Have Sex On The First Date

Written by John Alexander

Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds overrepparttar past two and a half decades, I've learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman.

However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going allrepparttar 140808 way onrepparttar 140809 very first night of your relationship.

1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.

By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her intorepparttar 140810 same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted withrepparttar 140811 last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.

Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again,repparttar 140812 last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid.

As an alpha male, you shouldn't do anything because you're "hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels.

A more attractive guy is one who gets laid allrepparttar 140813 time, so sex is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.

2. Haverepparttar 140814 proper mindset throughoutrepparttar 140815 date.

You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself into a sexual state, try watching porn just beforerepparttar 140816 date, but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed. No nervousness.

For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself, because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states with each other.

So when you're chilling withrepparttar 140817 girl, you should feel deeply relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny.

3. Get her alone with you.

Let's say you andrepparttar 140818 girl hit it off fantastically inrepparttar 140819 coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things are really going well there. The conversational vibe is excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy.

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